The Secure Love Podcast · with Julie Menanno

Real couples therapy, one session at a time.

Sit in the therapy room with licensed therapist Julie Menanno as she guides real couples out of the anxious–avoidant cycle and into secure, lasting love.

Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment theory, each episode unpacks the negative cycles, old wounds, and communication breakdowns underneath everyday conflict — and shows you exactly how change happens.

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Every episode is grounded in the same attachment tools we teach across the site. Follow a thread that speaks to your relationship:

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Are you and your partner open to exploring your relationship with guidance from Julie Menanno while helping others learn through your journey? We're looking for couples for an upcoming season of real-time recorded sessions. Both partners must participate in the application process.

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Season 2 Trailer: Can They Find Their Way Back?

Season 2 follows one couple's final attempt to repair a marriage on the brink of divorce. Julie Menanno introduces Bethany and Brian as name-calling, financial betrayal, and old wounds surface in real time. Can two people who've hurt each other this deeply find their way back?

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Communication, Season 1 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC Communication, Season 1 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC

What Happens When Shared Fears Aren’t Communicated?

Communicating shared fears is hard when one partner says “I’m happy” and the other senses something’s off. In this episode, Julie Menanno helps Melissa and Drew put words to the gap between reassurance and body language—and discover they’re both terrified of the same thing. Can naming that fear finally close the distance between them?

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Attachment Styles, Season 1 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC Attachment Styles, Season 1 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC

Moving Towards a Positive Cycle & Understanding the Avoidant Partner

Understanding the avoidant partner starts with seeing what’s underneath their calm, keep-it-together exterior. In this episode, Julie Menanno guides Drew to the pressure he’s carried since his teenage years and shows Melissa how that insight unlocks real co-regulation. What happens when “just get it right” finally gives way to being held?

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Repair, Season 1 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC Repair, Season 1 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC

Unraveling the Roots of the Negative Cycle Pt. 2

Repair after a rupture takes more than a well-meaning apology. In Part 2, Julie Menanno and guest therapist George Faller reveal why Drew’s sincere apology only scratches the surface until he can face his own unprocessed grief and vulnerability. What happens when the negative cycle sneaks back in right as a couple starts to heal?

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Negative Cycles, Season 1 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC Negative Cycles, Season 1 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC

Unraveling the Roots of the Negative Cycle Pt. 1

A negative cycle in a relationship often has roots that reach far deeper than the current argument. In Part 1, Julie Menanno helps Melissa and Drew trace their disconnection back to an attachment wound from their infant son’s hospitalization. Have you ever felt an old conflict come roaring back in a small, present-day moment?

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