FOUNDER AND AUTHOR
Julie Menanno
Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC. Founder of The Secure Relationship and author of Secure Love. Sessions online, wherever you are.
Couples only, working with Julie directly.
◆ Couples only ◆ Author of Secure Love ◆ Trains the coaching team ◆ Intensives available
1.3 million
Following her work across platforms
1 million
Downloads of The Secure Love Podcast
Simon & Schuster
Secure Love, 2024, in editions around the world
Nationwide
A team of coaches she trains and meets with almost every week
In Julie’s words
It started with one therapy room in Bozeman
For years my work was one room in Bozeman, Montana. Attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Two people on a couch, stuck in the same fight, both of them certain the other one started it.
Then the pandemic happened and I opened a small Instagram account. It was not a business plan…. it was hand drawn comics, bird memes, and the occasional appearance from my dog, Scout. I was taking what I said all day in session and putting it into pictures, mostly to see whether it would land anywhere.
It landed. What I had been saying to one couple at a time turned out to be what a lot of people were waiting to hear. That their patterns made sense. That they came by them honestly. And that what is learned CAN be changed. That account is followed by more than 1.3 million people now.
Secure Love came out of the same idea, and Simon & Schuster published it in 2024. It is in editions around the world. The podcast came from it too, where I coach real couples through real fights.
And then it got bigger than me, which is the part I did not expect. So I built a team of coaches, because more couples needed this than I could ever see myself. I train them and I meet with them almost every week….. that is the part I am proudest of, because it means the work does not depend on whether I happen to have an opening.
Why I still see couples myself
People ask why I have not stopped seeing clients. The honest answer is that the writing gets worse when I do.
Everything I teach comes out of the room. If I am not in the room, I am just repeating myself. So I keep a small number of couples on my calendar, and I take an intensive week when a couple needs one.
Book with Julie
Two ways to work with Julie
$1,500 an hour, couples only, online wherever you are. You can reserve a time without paying.
Couples coaching
$1,500
Sixty minutes with Julie, as often as the two of you want to meet. At checkout you can add another hour ($1,000) or 30 minutes ($750).
Couples intensive: fit call
Free
Fifteen minutes to see whether the intensive fits. Fourteen hours with Julie, two hours a day across one week, couples sessions combined with individual sessions for each partner. $10,500, billed hourly as you go, nothing due at booking.
◆ Online, wherever you are ◆ Couples only ◆ You can reserve a time without paying ◆ Cancel 48 hours ahead or the session is charged in full
Come to Julie if you are
A couple who wants Julie herself in the room
You want to work with Julie directly rather than with the team she trains
You are coming as a couple. Julie sees couples only
You have read the book or listened to the podcast and want the person behind them
You want a concentrated week of work rather than an hour at a time
How the work runs
Attachment science, applied to your actual fight
You name the cycle the two of you get caught in, the one that runs on its own.
Julie slows it down until you can both see the fear sitting underneath the anger.
You get new experiences of being understood, not only an explanation of why you fight.
You leave with words you can actually say, and a way back when it happens again.
Beyond the coaching
Where to find Julie
Most people meet Julie long before they think about booking her. A session is one way in. These are the others, and three of them are free.
The book
Secure Love
Published by Simon & Schuster in 2024, now in editions around the world. Read about the book
The podcast
The Secure Love Podcast
Julie coaches real couples through real fights. Past a million downloads. Listen to the podcast
Free
Attachment Style Quiz
Find out how you connect, protect and reach for people, and what to do with it. Take the quiz
Membership
The Secure Love Club
Live workshops with Julie plus a growing library of recorded coaching sessions. See the Club
About Julie
The record
Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor specializing in attachment and couples dynamics. She earned her master’s degree in Psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles.
Her work is rooted in Emotionally Focused Therapy and attachment science. She founded The Secure Relationship, leads its team of coaches, trains them and meets with them almost every week. She hosts The Secure Love Podcast, runs a bi-weekly discussion group on relational dynamics and emotional self-awareness, and is a frequent speaker and podcast guest.
Away from the work
Bozeman, Montana
Julie has been married 25 years and is a mother of six children and one much loved dog. Her understanding of attachment is not only theory, it is informed by her own life as a partner and a parent. The family lives in Bozeman, Montana, where they hike, ski and spend as much time outdoors as they can. In her own time she does Pilates, reads psychology and is learning Italian.
Before you book
What the booking asks of you
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The form asks for your contact details, who the coaching is for, how often you would like to meet, a date of birth for everyone being seen, and an emergency contact. There are also agreements to read, including a waiver and a consent to record, which you can decline without it affecting your booking.
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At checkout you can pay for the session, or choose Reserve Without Paying to hold the time. You can also add another hour or 30 minutes to the session at checkout.
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Appointments must be canceled 48 hours in advance. If you’re unable to cancel 48 hours in advance you’ll be charged for the full session.
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Start with the free fit call. It is fifteen minutes with Julie to talk through what the two of you are dealing with and whether a concentrated week is the right shape for it. If it is not, she will help you find something that fits better. The intensive is fourteen hours across one week, $10,500, billed hourly as you go, and nothing is due when you book the call.
Ready when you are
Sixty minutes with Julie, online, wherever you are
Couples only. You can hold the time without paying and settle before the session. If the two of you want a concentrated week instead, the fit call is free and it takes fifteen minutes.