Real couples therapy, one session at a time.
Sit in the therapy room with licensed therapist Julie Menanno as she guides real couples out of the anxious–avoidant cycle and into secure, lasting love.
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment theory, each episode unpacks the negative cycles, old wounds, and communication breakdowns underneath everyday conflict — and shows you exactly how change happens.
What this podcast helps you understand
Every episode is grounded in the same attachment tools we teach across the site. Follow a thread that speaks to your relationship:
Bring your relationship into the room
Are you and your partner open to exploring your relationship with guidance from Julie Menanno while helping others learn through your journey? We're looking for couples for an upcoming season of real-time recorded sessions. Both partners must participate in the application process.
Handling Crisis: The Anxious-Avoidant Clash
Anxious and avoidant partners often collide during a crisis, when one needs validation immediately and the other needs to process later. When a hospital trip leaves Melissa handling the chaos alone, their attachment styles clash hard. Can they still connect while pulling in opposite directions?
Take me Out to the Ballgame: Navigating Attachment Fears and Finding Co-Regulation
When your partner emotionally checks out in public, you can feel completely alone in parenting even with them right there. At a chaotic baseball game, Drew shuts down and Melissa spirals — and Julie Menanno traces it to avoidant shame and anxious protest, guiding them back toward co-regulation. What if your partner’s “checking out” is actually fear, not indifference?
Breaking The Negative Cycle
Breaking the negative cycle starts with seeing it clearly. In this first session of The Secure Love Podcast, EFT therapist Julie Menanno helps Melissa and Drew map the anxious-avoidant pattern that keeps them stuck, unpacking the anger and emotional shutdown hiding underneath. Could naming your own negative cycle be the first step out of it?