Attachment Based Relationship Tips

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What is attachment theory and why does it matter, the four attachment styles explained

What Is Attachment Theory? The 4 Attachment Styles

What is your attachment style, anxious avoidant disorganized or secure

What’s Your Attachment Style?

What makes a relationship thrive, attachment needs and negative cycles

What Makes a Relationship Thrive (and What Makes It Fail)

10/20/26 10/20/26

Why Keep Working on Yourself When Your Partner Won't?

Should you keep working on the relationship when your partner is not? Yes, because trust is rebuilt through repeated new behavior, and you only control your side.

9/15/26 9/15/26

Why Older Ruptures Still Need Repair in a Relationship

Time passing is not the same as repair. Learn how older ruptures stay active, what real repair sounds like, and how couples heal old pain for good.

8/11/26 8/11/26

How to Make a Repair After Conflict, Step by Step

A step by step guide to repairing after conflict, opening your heads and hearts, speaking from self, taking turns, making space for both hurts, and problem solving.

Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 6/8/26 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 6/8/26

What Are Attachment Ruptures?

Attachment ruptures are normal in romantic relationships. When partners understand the attachment needs underneath conflict and learn to repair along the way, the relationship can become stronger and more secure.

Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 5/5/25 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 5/5/25

After the Fight: 3 Options That Shape Your Relationship

After a fight, couples often choose between self-abandonment, protest, or repair. This post breaks down the three paths and helps you choose connection over disconnection.

Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 2/13/25 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 2/13/25

Why Saying Sorry Isn't Enough to Repair a Relationship

Saying 'I’m sorry' isn’t always enough. Learn how to truly repair trust by understanding, validating, and committing to change in your relationship.

Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 11/13/24 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 11/13/24

White Lies: What They Mean and Why Partners Tell Them

White lies can feel small, but they quietly erode trust. This post explains the meaning of white lies, why partners tell them, and how to move from hiding and protecting into honesty, repair, and real emotional safety.