Build a Secure Relationship That Truly Lasts a Lifetime
Evidence-based courses, coaching, and free resources from licensed therapist Julie Menanno and The Secure Relationship, guiding you and the people you love toward lasting, secure connection.
National Bestselling Book
1.5M+ Followers
800K Podcast Downloads
Struggling in your relationship? You're not alone.
Most relationship pain isn't about love running out. It's about attachment patterns and cycles that no one ever taught you to see. Here's what we help with, and where to start.
The same fight, over and over
You keep landing in the same argument with a different topic. That's a negative cycle, and once you can see it, you can step out of it.
You can't seem to get through to each other
When conversations turn into conflict or silence, it's rarely about the words. Learn to communicate so your partner can actually hear you.
One of you reaches, the other pulls away
The anxious-avoidant pattern leaves both partners feeling unseen. Understanding your attachment styles is the first step to breaking it.
You've grown more like roommates than partners
Emotional and physical distance build quietly. You can rebuild closeness, desire, and real connection.
You hurt each other and don't know how to recover
Every couple ruptures. Secure couples repair. Learn how to reconnect after conflict instead of letting it pile up.
Introducing Julie Menanno’sNationally Bestselling book ….
Secure Love
Create a lasting, loving bond with concrete, attachment-based advice from the couples therapist behind @TheSecureRelationship. Secure Love shows you how to understand your attachment style, calm conflict, and build the secure connection every relationship needs.
How The Secure Relationship works
Our approach is grounded in attachment theory and emotionally focused therapy, the same framework behind Julie's bestselling book. It moves you from insight to lasting change in three steps.
-
Take the free Attachment Style Quiz and explore our free resources to understand how you connect and where your patterns come from.
-
Go deeper with our courses, the Secure Love podcast, and Julie's book to learn the attachment theory behind your relationship.
-
Put it into practice with relationship coaching or a group program led by our attachment-trained team.
Why The Secure Relationship
Therapist-led and evidence-based
Founded by Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, a licensed couples therapist. This is attachment and EFT-informed guidance, not generic relationship tips.
Support for every stage
Wherever you are, there's a way in: free resources and the quiz, then courses, group programs, and one-to-one coaching when you're ready for more.
A proven approach
Julie's national bestseller Secure Love, a community of more than 1.5 million, and 800K+ podcast downloads. The method has helped people in over 100 countries.
About Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC
Julie Menanno is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of the national bestseller Secure Love. She has spent her career translating attachment theory into practical tools couples and individuals can actually use. Through The Secure Relationship, her courses, the Secure Love podcast, and a team of attachment-trained coaches, Julie has helped millions of people worldwide understand their patterns and build more secure, connected relationships.
“Having attachment needs doesn’t make you needy.
Met attachment needs are simply what’s necessary to feel close to another person; they don’t make you whole, but they do make a loving relationship whole.”
Julie Menanno, Secure Love
Meet our attachment-based relationship coaches
-
![Julie Menanno]()
Julie Menanno
FOUNDER
-
![Nicole Bihl]()
Nicole Bihl
COACH
-
![Jaime Cecutti]()
Jaime Cecutti
COACH
-
![Lizeth Felix]()
Lizeth Felix
COACH
-
![Benjamin Massey]()
Benjamin Massey
COACH
-
![Cindy Poulsen]()
Cindy Poulsen
COACH
-
![Joshua Nathaniel Reid Ollswang]()
Joshua Nathaniel Reid Ollswang
COACH
Not sure what's driving your relationship patterns
Take the free Attachment Style Quiz and get personalised insight into how you connect, where your patterns come from, and your next step toward secure love. It takes about three minutes.
What our community is saying
Real words from people who've used these tools to build more secure relationships.
"Julie's workshop was very impactful and helpful to me! Thank you so much. Her presentation and explanations were compelling, accessible, compassionate, and knowledgeable. It is also life changing to listen to other people who are struggling with some of the same avoidant behavior patterns. I thought I was alone! Inclusion of partners is also a powerful example of couples working together."
"Loved every minute and all the extra Q&A support. Julie's workshop was one of the best things we have done for our relationship."
"I appreciate the clear way Julie explains attachment styles and how they play out in relationships. She explains them in a way that helps me connect with more self compassion toward myself and understanding toward my partner. Learning these concepts helps me pause before reacting in relationship--and that is priceless."
"I never thought that this workshop would help me and my husband as much as it did. We are very new to Julie's work and just followed our gut feeling and signed up for the workshop. It turned out that it was a really good decision. Julie is very good at explaining and helping to understand the different mechanisms that can show up in relationships."
"The workshop was so helpful! We appreciated all the information shared and the couples activities."
"Most insightful workshop I’ve done. Putting words to emotions I feel and giving me practical tools I can use to make my relationships safe and secure! I wish I did this sooner!"
"I love the balance between providing information and learning the attachment styles and the group's participation which brings the learning to life. I think Julie's style created a safe space for people to be open, take risks in being vulnerable and apply the learning in real time. “
Ways to work with us
Whether you want to learn at your own pace or work with someone directly, there's a path that fits.
Courses & Workshops
Self-paced programs on attachment, negative cycles, anxious attachment, and shame.
Group Programs
Join a supportive, attachment-based group.
1:1 Relationship Coaching
Work directly with an attachment-trained coach on your specific relationship.
Resources
Get attachment-based relationship tools in your inbox
Join Julie's community and get practical tools, real scripts, and attachment-based insights to help you understand your patterns and build emotional safety and secure connection. No fluff, no generic advice, just the things that actually help.
Frequently Asked Questions
-
An attachment-based relationship education platform founded by therapist Julie Menanno, offering courses, coaching, a podcast, and free resources to help people build secure, lasting connection.
-
Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author of the national bestseller Secure Love, and the founder of The Secure Relationship.
-
Julie's national bestselling book, offering concrete, attachment-based guidance for understanding your attachment style, calming conflict, and building a secure bond.
-
Start by understanding your attachment style and your recurring negative cycle, then learn to regulate emotions, communicate needs, and repair after conflict. We teach this through free resources, courses, and coaching.
-
Yes, our attachment-trained coaches offer relationship coaching and group programs grounded in Julie's method. These are coaching and education services, not therapy.
-
Take the free Attachment Style Quiz, listen to the Secure Love podcast, or explore our free relationship resources.