Part 2: Interrupting Your Negative Cycle
with Julie Menanno
If you have mapped your negative cycle and understand the pattern that pulls you in, the next step is learning how to stop it in real time.
In this workshop-style course, Julie shows you how to interrupt your negative cycle the moment it starts before the conversation escalates, before the defenses take over, and before both partners feel disconnected or alone.
You will learn:
How to recognize the earliest signs your cycle is activating
How to stay grounded and regulated when emotions rise
How to take a step out without making your partner feel dismissed or abandoned
How to shift from reactivity to curiosity, connection, and vulnerability
How to use simple, practical tools that help both partners feel safer in the moment
How to work together as a team instead of getting pulled into old patterns
This course is not about never having conflict again. It is about creating enough emotional safety to change the way conflict goes.
When you can interrupt your cycle, you can change the entire direction of the moment.
Start with Chapter 1 to dive in.
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Through a grounding and visualization exercise, Julie helps partners revisit a recent cycle, notice what happens in their body, and identify the personal block that shows up when they try to interrupt the pattern. This lesson builds self-awareness for real-time change.
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Julie explains how to tell the difference between intentionally pausing for good timing versus appeasing or freezing from fear. She guides participants in using body awareness to understand whether they’re operating from protection or from connection.
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In this final exercise, partners share the block they identified and invite each other into a team-based approach to interrupting the cycle. Julie emphasizes using non-shaming language so both partners feel safe as they build awareness and support each other.
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Hosted by…
Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC
Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach. She earned her Master’s degree in Psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles, CA. She currently has a clinical therapy practice treating couples in Bozeman, Montana, as well as a relationship coaching practice with a staff of coaches who serve clients all over the globe. Julie is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and specializes in working with attachment issues within relationships.
While Julie’s first passion is treating couples, she also provides invaluable relationship insights and advice to over 1 million followers on Instagram. Julie’s best selling book “Secure Love” was published by Simon and Schuster in January of 2024. In addition to her work as an author and social media creator, Julie hosts a bi-weekly discussion group on a variety of relationship and self-help topics. She is a public speaker and a regular guest on podcasts.
Want to do this work with Julie?
Join Julie and a group of fellow couples and individuals in bi-weekly meetings held on Wednesdays at 6pm Mountain Time. This group offers a unique opportunity to interact with Julie directly, ask questions, and engage in discussions on a variety of topics. As a member, you'll have access to all previous meeting recordings, ensuring you never miss a moment. Julie will spend approximately half of each meeting sharing a slideshow on a topic of her choice.