Part 5: Creating a Secure Relationship Dynamic
with Julie Menanno
You have learned how to recognize your negative cycle.
You may even be getting better at interrupting it in the moment.
But what happens after that?
How do you build a relationship that feels steady, connected, and safe, not just in the calm moments, but in the hard ones too?
This workshop-style course focuses on creating the kinds of patterns that make a relationship more secure over time. Not perfect. More secure.
Julie Menanno guides you through the building blocks of a secure relationship dynamic, so you and your partner have a reliable way to come back to each other, stay on the same team, and keep the cycle from running the relationship.
You’ll learn:
Why secure relationships are not perfect, and what actually makes them secure
How to build a sense of teamwork, you and me against the cycle
The secure move when things get tense, slow down, stay connected, create safety first
What to say when you feel flooded, triggered, or close to shutting down
How to practice giving and receiving in a way your nervous system can actually tolerate
How to build closeness proactively, so connection is not only happening after a fight
How to notice, make, and respond to bids for connection
A clear repair script that helps you focus on impact first, then intent
How to take accountability without collapsing into shame or getting stuck in defensiveness
What to do when one partner is more motivated at first, and how one person shifting their side of the street can change the environment
This course is not about repairing perfectly.
It is about building a new rhythm, where security becomes the default more often than the exception.
Begin with Lesson 1 to start building your secure dynamic.
Hosted by…
Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC
Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach. She earned her Master’s degree in Psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles, CA. She currently has a clinical therapy practice treating couples in Bozeman, Montana, as well as a relationship coaching practice with a staff of coaches who serve clients all over the globe. Julie is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and specializes in working with attachment issues within relationships.
While Julie’s first passion is treating couples, she also provides invaluable relationship insights and advice to over 1 million followers on Instagram. Julie’s best selling book “Secure Love” was published by Simon and Schuster in January of 2024. In addition to her work as an author and social media creator, Julie hosts a bi-weekly discussion group on a variety of relationship and self-help topics. She is a public speaker and a regular guest on podcasts.
Want to do this work with Julie?
Join Julie and a group of fellow couples and individuals in bi-weekly meetings held on Wednesdays at 6pm Mountain Time. This group offers a unique opportunity to interact with Julie directly, ask questions, and engage in discussions on a variety of topics. As a member, you'll have access to all previous meeting recordings, ensuring you never miss a moment. Julie will spend approximately half of each meeting sharing a slideshow on a topic of her choice.