“Sexual connection provides a uniquely powerful bond between partners.”

— Julie Menanno, Secure Love

Posts about Sex and Desire

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A secure sex relationship isn't perfect—but it is emotionally safe. Here's how partners can support intimacy, vulnerability, and evolving desire without shame or pressure.

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Things to Know About Your Relationship And Sex

Sexual intimacy offers numerous physical and psychological benefits, but a healthy emotional connection is the foundation of a fulfilling sex life. Learn how to nurture intimacy and address challenges in your relationship.

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Anxious Attachment: Self-Work Course

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If you feel sensitive in relationships, scan for signs of disconnection, or spiral into protest and panic when you don’t feel close, this course is your starting point for healing. In this self-paced course, Julie Menanno guides you through the deeper emotional work required to stop self-abandoning and start showing up for your own needs, so connection can feel safe again. You’ll learn how anxious attachment develops, how it shows up in adult relationships, and how to build secure self-support,

✓ Identify your triggers and what they’re really about

✓ Calm attachment anxiety without spiraling or protest

✓ Build secure self-support (so you’re not outsourcing safety)

✓ Communicate needs clearly, without shame or over-explaining

✓ Follow a self-paced path with guided practice

Podcast Episodes

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Session 16: "Full Breathable Lungs": The Power of Vulnerability

We continue to ride a wave of progress this week. Bethany and Brian report zero negative cycles, and Bethany steps up during a family crisis, healing the wound of Brian's daughter feeling "dropped". We then pivot to the deeper wounds driving Brian's intense perfectionism. A seemingly small conflict about mulch reveals his childhood history of feeling "less than" his peers, driving him to hold himself and Bethany to unrealistic standards to avoid ever feeling that inadequacy again .

In this episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Julie works with Drew and Melissa in their final therapy session, focusing on Drew's shame and self-acceptance.

This week on the Secure Love Podcast the focus continues on Melissa’s experience as the anxious partner and her journey toward self-acceptance.

In this episode, host Julie Menanno delves into the evolving dynamics of Melissa and Drew's marriage as they navigate the life-altering effects of parenthood.

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The Shame that Blocks Connection

In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, Drew confronts his deep-seated feelings of shame, tracing their roots back to childhood experiences, including a pivotal moment at a baseball game when his father left him.

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