Online Couples Workshops & Attachment-Based Group Coaching
What Is The Secure Love Club?
The Secure Love Club is an online membership that helps couples and individuals build secure, connected relationships using attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Members get 100+ hours of recorded relationship workshops, plus live group meetings every other Wednesday with Julie Menanno — therapist and author of the book Secure Love. Join to work on your relationship together or on your own, from anywhere in the world.
Become A Member
Who It's For
Whether you're navigating an anxious–avoidant cycle, struggling to communicate without a fight, rebuilding trust, or simply wanting a more secure bond, the Club meets you where you are. It works if you and your partner join together — and it works if you're the only one ready to start. Everything is online and self-paced, with optional live support.
What's Included
- 100+ hours of on-demand workshops across three levels — Foundational, Intermediate, and Advanced — plus Q&As, collaborations, and a book club.
- Live group meetings every other Wednesday, 8pm ET, hosted by Julie Menanno (Full Membership).
- Live Q&A — ask Julie your relationship questions in real time (Full Membership).
- A private members-only Facebook community.
- New recordings after every session, so the library keeps growing.
- 25% off all online courses & workshops (Full Membership).
What We Cover
Our workshops span the ten themes that matter most in relationships: attachment styles, breaking the negative cycle, communication, needs & boundaries, emotional and physical intimacy, repair after conflict, trust & attachment wounds, self-regulation, sex & desire, and navigating life transitions together.
Membership Options
Recording Access — $20/month or $200/year
Full access to the entire recording library, including every new workshop after each live session. Learn at your own pace — pause, reflect, and rewatch. Includes the private Facebook group. The most affordable way to get attachment-based couples education on demand.
Full Membership — $100/month or $1,000/year
Everything in Recording Access, plus a live 1.5-hour group meeting every other week, live Q&A with Julie, and 25% off all online courses and workshops.
About Julie Menanno, LMFT, LCPC
Julie Menanno (M.A., LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime (Simon & Schuster). Through her brand The Secure Relationship, she has helped a global audience understand attachment theory and put it to work in their own relationships. She leads every live session in the Secure Love Club and personally designs its workshop curriculum.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is The Secure Love Club?
The Secure Love Club is an online membership for couples and individuals who want to build a more secure relationship using attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. It includes 100+ hours of recorded workshops and live bi-weekly group sessions with therapist Julie Menanno, author of Secure Love.
How much does it cost?
There are two tiers. Recording Access is $20/month or $200/year and unlocks the full recording library. Full Membership is $100/month or $1,000/year and adds live bi-weekly group meetings, live Q&A with Julie, and 25% off all courses.
Is it for couples or individuals?
Both. Many members join as a couple and go through the material together, but the Club is equally designed for individuals — you can make real progress on your relationship even if your partner isn't involved yet.
Can I improve my relationship if my partner won't go to therapy?
Yes. When one person changes how they communicate, regulate emotions, and respond to conflict, the whole dynamic shifts. The Club is built so a single partner can start the work solo and bring new skills into the relationship.
Is this couples therapy?
No — it's relationship education and group coaching, not therapy, and isn't a substitute for treatment. It's an affordable, attachment-based alternative many people use alongside or instead of traditional couples counseling.
What is the negative cycle in a relationship?
The negative cycle is the repeating pattern where one partner's protective reaction triggers the other's, escalating the same fight again and again — often an anxious pursue met with an avoidant withdraw. Several workshops teach you to recognize and interrupt it.
What is an attachment style and why does it matter?
Your attachment style is the pattern of how you connect, seek closeness, and respond to stress in relationships — usually described as secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized. Understanding yours and your partner's explains much relationship conflict, and it can be changed toward security.
How do anxious and avoidant partners stop triggering each other?
By learning to recognize the cycle in the moment, regulate their own nervous systems, and reach for each other instead of protecting against each other. This anxious–avoidant dynamic is one of the most-covered topics in the workshop library.
Are online couples workshops actually worth it?
For many people, yes — especially attachment-based ones. On-demand workshops let you learn proven relationship skills at your own pace for a fraction of the cost of weekly couples counseling, and the live group adds accountability and expert guidance.
How do the live meetings work?
Full Members join a 1.5-hour live group meeting every other Wednesday at 8pm ET, hosted by Julie Menanno, with a live Q&A. Every session is recorded and added to the library, so you never lose access if you can't attend live.
Who is Julie Menanno?
Julie Menanno is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of Secure Love (Simon & Schuster). She teaches attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy to a global audience and leads every session in the Secure Love Club.
Can I cancel anytime?
Yes. You can cancel your membership at any time, with no long-term commitment. When you cancel, you keep full access to the group's content through the end of your current billing cycle.