Meet Nicole Bihl: Expert Relationship Coach

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Welcome to The Secure Relationship

I’m Nicole Bihl, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and relationship coach with 15 years of experience helping people feel more secure in themselves and their relationships.

My Approach to Relationship Coaching
With advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), I help people understand the deeper emotions and attachment needs underneath conflict, disconnection, and painful patterns.
I work with couples who feel stuck in the same arguments, emotionally distant, or unsure how to rebuild trust. I also support individuals who want to better understand themselves, regulate their emotions, heal relational wounds, and create more secure connections.
I believe healing happens when you feel safe enough to stay present with what is uncomfortable. In our work, we create new experiences of being understood, supported, and connected so you can move through difficult emotions in new ways and begin to change old patterns.

Why Work With Me?
My style is warm, curious, and practical. I create a space where you can be honest about what is painful while knowing we have a clear map for the work. I’ll help you slow things down, make sense of what is happening underneath, and practice new ways of responding.

Clients often tell me they appreciate the balance of depth, humor, and tools they can actually use.

About Me
Outside of work, I love adventures with my family, competitive ballroom dancing, traveling, art, and being outdoors. I’m happiest when I’m moving...whether I’m hiking, dancing a tango, working out, or trying to keep up with my kids. I also love Michigan football and finding as many reasons to laugh as possible.

Schedule a 15-Minute Consultation
Finding the right fit matters. Schedule a 15-minute consultation so we can connect and see whether working together feels right.

What Clients Are Saying About Nicole

  • Nicole is so accessible, and terrific about checking in with us throughout our sessions. She's a great partner and coach for us, and helps us see ourselves and the other, as well as our negative cycle. It creeps up when we least expect it, and sometimes we can't see it without her guidance. What we've learned from Nicole and the Secure Relationship saved our marriage.

  • Nicole saved our relationship! She is amazing and worth the investment. Think of it as an investment into your happiness as a couple.