RELATIONSHIP COACH
Nicole Bihl
15 years of experience. Advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Sessions online, wherever you are.
For couples stuck in the same argument, and for people doing the work on their own.
Meet Nicole
A few minutes before you book
Hear how Nicole works before you spend anything.
A short introduction from Nicole Bihl, relationship coach at The Secure Relationship.
Book with Nicole
Three ways to start
$375 an hour. Sessions online, wherever you are. You can reserve a time without paying.
15 minute inquiry call
$50
Fifteen minutes to connect and see whether working together feels right. The $50 comes off your first session.
Coaching session
$375
Sixty minutes online, as a couple or on your own. At checkout you can add another hour, 30 minutes, or three Jump Start hours.
Jump Start, 4 hours
$1,500
A four hour block covering about a month of work in one day, for when the week between sessions keeps undoing the progress.
◆ Sessions run online, wherever you are ◆ Couples and individuals both welcome ◆ You can reserve a time without paying ◆ Cancel 48 hours ahead or the session is charged in full
Come to Nicole if you are
Having the same fight, or feeling a long way apart
Having the same argument over and over and getting nowhere
Emotionally distant from someone you still love
Unsure how to rebuild trust after it went
Working on your own emotional regulation and attachment healing
What the work looks like
Slow it down, name what is underneath, practice something new
We slow things down until you can both see the pattern running.
We make sense of the emotions and attachment needs underneath the conflict.
You get new experiences of being understood, not only insight about them.
You leave with tools you can actually use, and enough humor to keep going.
In Nicole’s words
I help people understand the deeper emotions and attachment needs underneath conflict, disconnection and painful patterns. I work with couples who feel stuck in the same arguments, emotionally distant, or unsure how to rebuild trust, and with individuals who want to better understand themselves, regulate their emotions, heal relational wounds and create more secure connections.
I believe healing happens when you feel safe enough to stay present with what is uncomfortable. In our work we create new experiences of being understood, supported and connected, so you can move through difficult emotions in new ways and begin to change old patterns.
My style is warm, curious and practical. I create a space where you can be honest about what is painful while knowing we have a clear map for the work.
Away from the work
Adventures with my family, competitive ballroom dancing, traveling, art and being outdoors. I am happiest when I am moving, whether that is hiking, dancing a tango, working out, or trying to keep up with my kids. I also love Michigan football and finding as many reasons to laugh as possible.
What clients say
“Nicole is so accessible, and terrific about checking in with us throughout our sessions. She’s a great partner and coach for us, and helps us see ourselves and the other, as well as our negative cycle. It creeps up when we least expect it, and sometimes we can’t see it without her guidance. What we’ve learned from Nicole and The Secure Relationship saved our marriage.”
Couples client
“Nicole saved our relationship! She is amazing and worth the investment. Think of it as an investment into your happiness as a couple.”
Couples client
Before you book
What the booking asks of you
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The form asks for your contact details, who the coaching is for, how often you would like to meet, a date of birth for everyone being seen, and an emergency contact. There are also agreements to read, including a waiver and a consent to record, which you can decline without it affecting your booking.
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At checkout you can pay for the session, or choose Reserve Without Paying to hold the time. You can also add another hour or 30 minutes to the session at checkout.
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Appointments must be canceled 48 hours in advance. If you’re unable to cancel 48 hours in advance you’ll be charged for the full session.
Finding the right fit matters
Start with fifteen minutes
Book 15 minutes with Nicole so you can connect and see whether working together feels right. The $50 comes off your first session.