RELATIONSHIP COACH
Benj Massey
Trained in EFT, AEDP, IFS, interpersonal neurobiology and somatic work. Sessions online, wherever you are.
For when change feels impossible and disconnection has taken over.
◆ Trained in EFT ◆ Somatic and IFS informed ◆ Trauma and betrayal ◆ Couples and individuals
“My intention is to honor and integrate all parts of who you are, emotionally, physically, mentally, relationally, culturally and spiritually, while working in a space that feels safe for this work.”
BENJ MASSEY
Book with Benj
Two ways to start
$250 an hour. Sessions online, wherever you are. You can reserve a time without paying.
15 minute inquiry call
$50
Fifteen minutes to talk through logistics and whether working together feels right. The $50 comes off your first session.
Coaching session
$250
Sixty minutes online, as a couple or on your own. At checkout you can add another hour ($250), 30 minutes ($125), or three Jump Start hours ($750).
◆ Sessions run online, wherever you are ◆ Couples and individuals both welcome ◆ You can reserve a time without paying ◆ Cancel 48 hours ahead or the session is charged in full
Come to Benj if you are
Stuck in a pattern that will not shift on its own
Conflict and distance have become the normal state of things
Trauma, betrayal or a crisis has reshaped how you are with each other
A life transition has knocked the relationship sideways
You want practical communication tools alongside the deeper attachment work
How Benj works
Experiential, not a conversation about the problem from a distance
You work in the moment rather than analyzing the problem from the outside.
He finds the good reasons your protective strategies developed in the first place.
Together you trace how those strategies feed the cycle, and the emotion underneath organizing all of it.
From there the EFT map moves you through the stuck places toward something that lasts.
In Benj’s words
When relational challenges feel overwhelming, change seems impossible, or conflict and disconnection have taken over, I help couples and individuals break out of negative patterns, repair ruptures, improve intimacy and build a more secure connection with themselves and others.
Rooted in attachment research, my approach brings together advanced training in EFT with AEDP, IFS, interpersonal neurobiology and somatic work. I specialize in supporting couples and individuals through the impact that trauma, betrayal, crisis or a major transition has on the patterns between them.
My academic and professional path has been directed by a wish to understand the complexity of human experience and the things that block healing, change and growth, in individuals, in relationships and in the systems around them. I studied economics with a focus on sustainable development at the University of Colorado before training at Denver Seminary.
Away from the work
Attachment theory has not only informed my professional work, it has deeply affected my relationships with myself, my wife of 16 years, my two children and even with God. I enjoy traveling, trying new food, time in the mountains and playing in the snow. You might also find me in my pottery studio, wandering around taking pictures, or getting interrupted by my kids while trying to read a book.
Before you book
What the booking asks of you
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The form asks for your contact details, who the coaching is for, how often you would like to meet, a date of birth for everyone being seen, and an emergency contact. There are also agreements to read, including a waiver and a consent to record, which you can decline without it affecting your booking.
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At checkout you can pay for the session, or choose Reserve Without Paying to hold the time. You can also add another hour or 30 minutes to the session at checkout.
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Appointments must be canceled 48 hours in advance. If you’re unable to cancel 48 hours in advance you’ll be charged for the full session.
Ready when you are
Sixty minutes, online, wherever you are
As a couple or on your own. You can hold the time without paying and settle before the session. If you would rather talk first, the fifteen minute call costs $50 and comes off your first session.