Benj Massey
Trained in EFT, AEDP, IFS, interpersonal neurobiology and somatic work. Sessions online, wherever you are.
For when change feels impossible and disconnection has taken over.
“My intention is to honor and integrate all parts of who you are, emotionally, physically, mentally, relationally, culturally and spiritually, while working in a space that feels safe for this work.”
Benj MasseyStuck in a pattern that will not shift on its own
- ◆Conflict and distance have become the normal state of things
- ◆Trauma, betrayal or a crisis has reshaped how you are with each other
- ◆A life transition has knocked the relationship sideways
- ◆You want practical communication tools alongside the deeper attachment work
Experiential, not a conversation about the problem from a distance
- We work in the moment rather than analyzing the problem from the outside.
- We find the good reasons your protective strategies developed in the first place.
- We trace how those strategies feed the cycle, and the emotion underneath organizing all of it.
- We use the EFT map to move through the stuck places toward something that lasts.
In Benj’s words
When relational challenges feel overwhelming, change seems impossible, or conflict and disconnection have taken over, I help couples and individuals break out of negative patterns, repair ruptures, improve intimacy and build a more secure connection with themselves and others.
My academic and professional path has been directed by a wish to understand the complexity of human experience and the things that block healing, change and growth, in individuals, in relationships and in the systems around them. I studied economics with a focus on sustainable development at the University of Colorado before training at Denver Seminary.
Rooted in attachment research, my approach brings together advanced training in EFT with AEDP, IFS, interpersonal neurobiology and somatic work. I specialize in supporting couples and individuals through the impact that trauma, betrayal, crisis or a major transition has on the patterns between them.
Away from the work
Attachment theory has not only informed my professional work, it has deeply affected my relationships with myself, my wife of 16 years, my two children and even with God. I enjoy traveling, trying new food, time in the mountains and playing in the snow. You might also find me in my pottery studio, wandering around taking pictures, or getting interrupted by my kids while trying to read a book.
What the booking asks of you
A short form first
After you pick a time you fill in your details, whether this is your first session with the team, individual or couples, how often you would like to meet, and what you would like Benj to know beforehand. Weekly is what the team recommends.
Pay now or reserve
You can pay at the end, or reserve the time without paying and settle before the session.
Canceling
Appointments must be canceled 48 hours in advance. Later than that and the full session is charged.
Not sure yet? Start with fifteen minutes
A short call to talk through logistics and whether working together feels right. The $50 comes off your first session.