Anxious attachment and codependency are not flaws or weaknesses. They are nervous system strategies developed to manage pain and feel safe. Healing begins when feelings are allowed instead of acted out.

Anxious attachment is often misunderstood as neediness. In reality, it reflects unmet attachment needs for clarity, emotional responsiveness, and connection. Understanding this difference is key to building secure relationships.

Anxious and avoidant attachment styles may appear completely different, but they share the same core problem: insecurity and avoidance of painful feelings. Understanding this difference is key to healing and building secure attachment.

In The Secure Love Podcast, follow real-life couple Melissa and Drew through 20 unscripted coaching sessions. With expert commentary and free homework downloads, you’ll learn how attachment theory can help you transform conflict into connection.

In this session, Julie explores how emotional disgust, toward our own feelings or our partner’s, can silently block intimacy and emotional engagement. A powerful conversation with real-life examples and tools for healing.

Reaching and responding are the smallest, most powerful moves in a relationship—and the ones most likely to be misunderstood. Chapter 7 helps you spot the reach, respond with intention, and change the entire trajectory of a moment.

Your attachment style shapes how you love, fight, and connect. The Attachment 101 Course helps you understand your emotional patterns—and how to build secure bonds.

Every couple has a negative cycle that hijacks connection. Peek inside Julie’s coaching group to learn the first steps for slowing yours—and find out how to join the next live session.

Anxious partners over-sacrifice. Avoidant partners resist change. Secure partners give for the greater good. Learn how attachment shapes relationship sacrifices.

The emotional patterns you repeat in your relationship often stem from your attachment style. This post outlines common signs of anxious or avoidant attachment.

Do you find yourself constantly testing your partner’s love? This blog explores why reassurance never feels like enough and how you can begin to build real trust—from the inside out.

Trying to control your environment—like keeping a spotless house—can sometimes be a way to manage inner anxiety caused by relationship disconnection. But when that strategy backfires, it can create more of the very disconnection you’re trying to avoid. This post explores how personal anxiety shows up in relationships, and how couples can break the cycle.

When anxious partners feel dismissed, they often double down in protest. It’s not about control—it’s about emotional survival and the fear of being too much to love.

The anxious partner in a negative cycle isn’t just “overreacting”—they’re fighting to feel seen, heard, and emotionally safe. Here’s what’s happening beneath the surface.

Each attachment style holds a story—about fear, need, and connection. When we give those stories words, we begin the process of healing, connection, and secure attachment.

Anxious partners feel more secure when their relationship needs are met. Learn three practical ways to support your partner in feeling safe, valued, and emotionally connected.

Understand how attachment styles, boundaries, and emotional security shape your relationships. Learn how to distinguish between anxious fears and intuition, repair negative cycles, and move forward with clarity.

Anxious attachment behaviors often stem from deep fears of abandonment. Learn why these behaviors feel safe and how to shift toward healthier relationship patterns.

Anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles often keep partners stuck in negative cycles. Learn how to break free by improving communication, self-awareness, and emotional regulation.

Many anxious partners struggle with over responsibility, feeling the need to control everything to feel safe. Learn how to balance expectations, release control, and build a healthier relationship dynamic.