Session 2: “Second-Class Citizen” – Understanding What Lies Behind the Anger
In this week’s session, we dive deeper into Brian’s inner world as he unpacks the painful feeling of being a “second-class citizen” in his relationship with Bethany. What does it mean to feel unimportant to the person you love and how does that hurt turn into anger?
We explore how Brian’s anger is rooted in a longing for connection, not control, and how his unspoken sadness transforms into name calling as he's trying everything he can in his power trying to be heard. Meanwhile, we examine how Bethany copes with his anger, often retreating and rationalizing, which only deepens their disconnection.
This episode is about building awareness and learning to catch the hurt before it becomes a fight.
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This week’s homework prompt: Think about a time you felt overlooked or unimportant in your relationship. Where did you notice the feeling come up in your body?
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