Season 3 Trailer: I Leave You Because I Leave Me

Season 3Attachment Styles
Written By Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC

In this episode

Season 3 of The Secure Love Podcast introduces Rachel and Mike, a couple who look perfect on paper yet are quietly drowning. Rachel, a widow who risked everything for a fresh start, fights a lonely battle for priority, while Mike, the steady husband, retreats into his head to avoid failing her. Julie Menanno previews a season about grief, financial betrayal, the erosion of trust, and the anxious-avoidant cycle beneath it all.

Key takeaways

  • Rachel and Mike look perfect on paper but are quietly struggling underneath.
  • Rachel is a widow who risked everything for a fresh start and now fights to feel like a priority.
  • Mike, the 'steady' husband, copes by retreating into his head to avoid failing her.
  • Season 3 uses an intensive therapy model to explore grief, financial betrayal, and eroding trust.
  • The avoidant refrain 'I leave you because I leave me' frames the whole season.

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Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC

Julie Menanno, MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and Relationship Coach. Julie operates a clinical therapy practice in Bozeman, Montana, and leads a global relationship coaching practice with a team of trained coaches. She is an expert in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples and specializes in attachment issues within relationships.

Julie is the author of the best-selling book Secure Love, published by Simon and Schuster in January 2024. She provides relationship insights to over 1.3 million Instagram followers and hosts The Secure Love Podcast, where she shares real-time couples coaching sessions to help listeners navigate relational challenges. Julie also hosts a bi-weekly discussion group on relationship and self-help topics. A sought-after public speaker and podcast guest, Julie is dedicated to helping individuals and couples foster secure, fulfilling relationships.

Julie lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband of 25 years, their six children, and their beloved dog. In her free time, she enjoys hiking, skiing, Pilates, reading psychology books, and studying Italian.

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