When your partner triggers you, the L.O.V.E. tool helps you pause, regulate, and respond with clarity and care. Here's how to shift from reaction to connection.

In Part 1 of Chapter 5, we explore what it takes to interrupt your negative cycle in the moment. Julie shares how to slow down, name the pattern, and choose connection over protection—even when it’s hard.

Julie Menanno pinpoints the hidden trio—unmet needs, fear, and negative cycles—that keep partners spinning in place, and shares the first tiny moves that push a relationship forward again.

Get stuck in the same argument with your partner? The Mapping Your Negative Cycle workshop helps you uncover what’s really happening—and how to change it.

Shame is often the hidden force behind emotional disconnection. This workshop helps you understand, name, and work with shame—so it no longer controls your relationships.

Your attachment style shapes how you love, fight, and connect. The Attachment 101 Course helps you understand your emotional patterns—and how to build secure bonds.

Every partner has attachment needs that support emotional safety. Learn how unmet needs and fears drive disconnection—and how to move back toward security.

In Chapter 4 of the Secure Love Book Club, Julie Menanno explores how negative cycles—not your partner—keep you stuck. Learn how to map your cycle and begin the path to healing disconnection.

Every couple has a negative cycle that hijacks connection. Peek inside Julie’s coaching group to learn the first steps for slowing yours—and find out how to join the next live session.

Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean your partner can’t connect. Learn four key ways to help them feel safe, successful, and emotionally understood.

Anxious partners over-sacrifice. Avoidant partners resist change. Secure partners give for the greater good. Learn how attachment shapes relationship sacrifices.

The emotional patterns you repeat in your relationship often stem from your attachment style. This post outlines common signs of anxious or avoidant attachment.

Anger can divide or connect—depending on how it’s expressed. This post shows the difference between reactive and assertive anger and how to use it for deeper connection.

It can feel easier to label your partner than to feel powerless. But what if the answer isn’t in blame, but in understanding the cycle? This post offers a new way forward.

After a fight, couples often choose between self-abandonment, protest, or repair. This post breaks down the three paths and helps you choose connection over disconnection.

A secure relationship doesn’t feel like constant bliss. It feels safe. Valued. Trusted. Seen. This post explains what secure attachment really looks and feels like.

Real relationship change takes repetition, reflection, and support. Julie’s Bi-Weekly Group gives you live guidance, a community of growth, and tools that last.

Your partner’s bad mood doesn’t have to mean disconnection. Learn how to regulate your nervous system, reflect with empathy, and stay connected—even when it’s hard.

In Chapter 3 of Secure Love, we begin one of the most foundational steps in the healing process—identifying your attachment style. In this session, I guide readers through recognizing the patterns that shape how they relate, connect, and protect themselves in relationships.

Setting boundaries in a loving relationship doesn’t mean shutting your partner out. It means protecting emotional safety while staying committed to connection.