Mapping Your Negative Cycle: A Workshop to Transform Your Relationship Patterns
Understanding your negative cycle is one of the most powerful steps toward creating a secure relationship. I’ll guide you through how to recognize, map out, and understand what's really going on under the surface of your fights. If you’re feeling stuck or repeating the same painful patterns, this will be a great place to start.
You’re Not Fighting About the Dishes
If you’ve ever had the same fight—over and over—with your partner, you already know what a negative cycle feels like. The topic may change, but the outcome is always the same:
One of you gets overwhelmed.
The other shuts down.
You both walk away feeling alone, misunderstood, or disconnected.
That’s not because you’re incompatible. It’s because you’re caught in a cycle—a predictable, emotional pattern that keeps you from reaching each other in the moments you need connection most.
And that’s exactly what we address in this on-demand workshop.
What Is Mapping Your Negative Cycle?
This 60-minute recorded workshop, led by Julie Menanno, is designed to help couples recognize the emotional cycle that drives their conflict—and begin interrupting it with clarity, compassion, and connection.
Using the lens of attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Julie walks you step-by-step through identifying:
Your role in the cycle
Your partner’s role in the cycle
The underlying needs and fears driving each of your reactions
How your early attachment experiences shape your patterns today
You’ll leave with a map of your specific negative cycle—and the insight to start shifting out of it.
Why Mapping Matters
Understanding your negative cycle is one of the most powerful things you can do for your relationship. Why? Because:
It moves the focus off of blame and onto understanding
It helps both partners feel seen and validated, even in moments of conflict
It creates a shared language you can return to when things get tough
It’s the first essential step toward building a more secure, connected partnership.
What You’ll Get
60-minute recorded workshop with Julie Menanno
Immediate access to watch at your own pace
A printable cycle mapping guide
Insights grounded in attachment theory and EFT
Unlimited replay access so you can revisit it as often as needed
Who This Workshop Is For
Couples who feel stuck in recurring arguments
Partners who want to understand each other better
Individuals curious about attachment theory and EFT
Anyone ready to stop fighting and start connecting
You don’t need to be in crisis to benefit from this work. In fact, the best time to learn these skills is before conflict becomes overwhelming.
Why Couples Love This Workshop
“This helped us understand each other in a way we’ve never been able to before.”
“We saw our negative cycle so clearly—and it made it easier to have compassion for each other.”
“It was like someone finally handed us the relationship roadmap we’ve been missing.”
Related Resources
Secure Love Book – Read the full chapter on negative cycles and learn the next steps after mapping yours
Relationship Coaching – Get support from a trained coach to apply the workshop insights in real time
Understanding Shame Workshop – Explore how shame keeps you stuck in negative cycles and how to move through it with self-compassion
Attachment 101 Course – Learn how your attachment style drives your role in the cycle
“You can’t change what you can’t see. Mapping your cycle is how you begin to see it.”
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Get stuck in the same argument with your partner? The Mapping Your Negative Cycle workshop helps you uncover what’s really happening—and how to change it.