Understanding Shame: The Missing Link in Relationship Healing
This workshop isn’t just about understanding shame, it’s about transforming how you engage with yourself and those you care about. Whether you're navigating shame as an individual or within your relationship, you'll gain practical strategies to break negative patterns and create stronger, more meaningful connections.
You Can’t Heal What You Can’t See
You’re trying to connect.
You’re trying to communicate better.
But something keeps pulling you out of alignment—out of security—when it matters most.
That “something” might be shame.
It’s the emotion that says:
“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m too much.”
“I’ll never get this right.”
And it’s also the emotion most likely to go unspoken.
That’s why we created the Understanding Shame Workshop—a 3-hour course that helps you finally name, unpack, and work with this powerful emotion so it no longer controls your relationships.
What Is the Understanding Shame Workshop?
This pre-recorded 3-hour workshop, led by Julie Menanno, is a deep dive into how shame impacts your inner world, your relationships, and your place in emotional cycles.
Shame is often the missing link in the work of emotional healing. Without addressing it, partners get stuck in the same arguments, the same protest-withdraw cycles, the same disconnect.
This course helps you understand why.
What You’ll Learn
What shame is—and what it’s not
How shame shows up in both anxious and avoidant attachment
The connection between shame and reactivity
Why your body reacts before your brain can catch up
Tools to move from shame to self-compassion
How shame blocks emotional responsiveness in relationships
You’ll leave with practical strategies and a new awareness of how shame drives conflict, withdrawal, and emotional misattunement.
Why Shame Work Matters
Shame is not just a personal struggle—it’s a relational one. It disconnects you from yourself and from your partner.
It fuels:
Defensiveness
Criticism
Shutdowns
Insecurity
Blame
Withdrawal
When you understand your shame, you can begin to soften. You can move toward vulnerability. You can build trust again—starting with yourself.
What’s Included
3-hour video workshop with Julie Menanno
Practical tools and concepts grounded in attachment theory and EFT
Unlimited replay access
No shame-based language or “fix it” frameworks—just compassionate, clear insight
PDF download with key takeaways and journaling prompts
Who This Workshop Is For
Individuals and couples who want to understand their emotional reactions
People who get stuck in anger, blame, or self-criticism
Anyone working through attachment wounds or emotional reactivity
Those who want deeper connection but feel blocked when things get vulnerable
Whether you're in a relationship or working on yourself, this course gives you tools to build real emotional resilience.
Related Resources
Attachment 101 Course – Learn how shame intertwines with attachment insecurity and emotional reactivity
Relationship Coaching – Work through your specific shame triggers and break out of protest-withdraw cycles with guidance
Secure Love Book – Read about shame's role in blocking repair and how secure couples build compassion-based connection
The Secure Love Podcast – Hear real couples encounter and work through shame in live coaching sessions
Julie’s Bi-Weekly Group – Get ongoing community support and live discussions about emotional regulation and healing
“Shame is the emotion most likely to be driving your disconnection—and the least likely to be recognized.”
Other Posts You Might Like:
Get stuck in the same argument with your partner? The Mapping Your Negative Cycle workshop helps you uncover what’s really happening—and how to change it.