In this week’s group, Julie dives into healing attachment wounds and why old pain can make “small” moments feel huge. She breaks down what an attachment wound really is: not just a big event, but often a thousand paper cuts of emotional abandonment that teach your nervous system, “My needs won’t be met.”

You’ll learn Julie’s layered model for why conflicts escalate: the original issue, the unmet need underneath it, the relationship wound that adds fear and grief, and the childhood echoes that make the present feel like the past. Julie then walks through the three essentials for healing: healing conversations (focused on impact, not intention), new behaviors (because trust requires new experiences), and time (because your nervous system has its own timeline).

During the Q&A , we learn how to do grief work for childhood wounds, what “re-parenting” can look like in a way that feels authentic, and how to stay with emotional pain without getting flooded.

In this week’s group, I dove into identity loss in relationships and how we can slowly disappear in the service of “keeping the connection safe.” If you have ever felt like you’ve become a quieter version of yourself, edited your needs, or organized your whole life around keeping the relationship stable, this session will land.

We talked about how shame and early attachment learning can wire the nervous system to prioritize safety over authenticity, and why that strategy can feel protective in the short term but quietly blocks the closeness you are actually longing for. You will also hear how identity loss fuels hypervigilance, anxiety, and negative cycles, even when your partner is not asking you to shrink.

A portion of the meeting focused on the difference between denying your needs to keep the peace versus owning your needs while recognizing a partner may not be able to meet them.

• Individual Exercise

• How To Rebuild Your Identity

• Couple’s Exercise