Attachment Based Relationship Tips
Looking to strengthen your relationship? Our blog offers expert relationship tips rooted in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Learn how to identify your attachment style, communicate more effectively, and foster emotional safety with your partner. From overcoming conflict to building deeper trust, our practical advice and tools, created by couples therapist Julie Menanno, are designed to help you move toward a secure and fulfilling connection. Dive in and start transforming your relationships today!
Understanding Shame: The Missing Link in Relationship Healing
Shame is often the hidden force behind emotional disconnection. This workshop helps you understand, name, and work with shame—so it no longer controls your relationships.
Attachment 101: The Course Every Relationship Needs
Your attachment style shapes how you love, fight, and connect. The Attachment 101 Course helps you understand your emotional patterns—and how to build secure bonds.
Attachment Needs & Fears
Every partner has attachment needs that support emotional safety. Learn how unmet needs and fears drive disconnection—and how to move back toward security.
What Is Your Negative Cycle?: Chapter 4 of the Secure Love Book Club
In Chapter 4 of the Secure Love Book Club, Julie Menanno explores how negative cycles—not your partner—keep you stuck. Learn how to map your cycle and begin the path to healing disconnection.
What Is a Negative Cycle?
Every couple has a negative cycle that hijacks connection. Peek inside Julie’s coaching group to learn the first steps for slowing yours—and find out how to join the next live session.
4 Tips to Help Your Avoidant Partner Feel Safe
Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean your partner can’t connect. Learn four key ways to help them feel safe, successful, and emotionally understood.
How Do Different Attachment Styles Approach Making Sacrifices for the Good of the Relationship?
Anxious partners over-sacrifice. Avoidant partners resist change. Secure partners give for the greater good. Learn how attachment shapes relationship sacrifices.
How to Recognize Your Attachment Style in Everyday Reactions
The emotional patterns you repeat in your relationship often stem from your attachment style. This post outlines common signs of anxious or avoidant attachment.
Toxic vs. Healthy Anger: The Difference Between Reactivity and Assertiveness
Anger can divide or connect—depending on how it’s expressed. This post shows the difference between reactive and assertive anger and how to use it for deeper connection.
Before You Label Your Partner, Try This Perspective
It can feel easier to label your partner than to feel powerless. But what if the answer isn’t in blame, but in understanding the cycle? This post offers a new way forward.
After the Fight: 3 Options That Shape Your Relationship
After a fight, couples often choose between self-abandonment, protest, or repair. This post breaks down the three paths and helps you choose connection over disconnection.
A Secure Attachment Isn’t Bliss—It’s Safety
A secure relationship doesn’t feel like constant bliss. It feels safe. Valued. Trusted. Seen. This post explains what secure attachment really looks and feels like.
Julie’s Bi-Weekly Group: Grow in Real Time with Support That Sticks
Real relationship change takes repetition, reflection, and support. Julie’s Bi-Weekly Group gives you live guidance, a community of growth, and tools that last.
Why Your Partner’s Bad Mood Triggers You—and What to Do
Your partner’s bad mood doesn’t have to mean disconnection. Learn how to regulate your nervous system, reflect with empathy, and stay connected—even when it’s hard.
Identifying Your Attachment Style: Chapter 3 of the Secure Love Book Club
In Chapter 3 of Secure Love, we begin one of the most foundational steps in the healing process—identifying your attachment style. In this session, I guide readers through recognizing the patterns that shape how they relate, connect, and protect themselves in relationships.
How to Set Gentle Boundaries With Your Partner
Setting boundaries in a loving relationship doesn’t mean shutting your partner out. It means protecting emotional safety while staying committed to connection.
Can You Lean Into Your Partner’s Emotions?
Leaning in—offering empathy even when you don’t agree—isn’t the whole relationship, but it is the beginning. Here’s why it matters and how to do it well.
Testing Your Partner’s Love?
Do you find yourself constantly testing your partner’s love? This blog explores why reassurance never feels like enough and how you can begin to build real trust—from the inside out.
Chapter 2 of Secure Love: Understanding Attachment Theory in Relationships
In this week’s Secure Love Book Club, I guide you through Chapter 2, where we unpack the fundamentals of attachment theory and how it affects your ability to feel safe, seen, and connected in romantic relationships.
How Personal Anxiety Can Impact Your Relationship
Trying to control your environment—like keeping a spotless house—can sometimes be a way to manage inner anxiety caused by relationship disconnection. But when that strategy backfires, it can create more of the very disconnection you’re trying to avoid. This post explores how personal anxiety shows up in relationships, and how couples can break the cycle.

Most couples believe that if they could just get on the same page, their conflicts would finally settle down. The problem is that agreement alone does not guarantee connection. You can agree and still feel unseen. You can disagree and stay deeply bonded.
In this meeting, Emotional Safety vs. Agreement, we will look at conflict through an emotional safety lens. We will explore what emotional safety actually feels like, what happens in the nervous system when safety drops, and how negative cycles begin when you and your partner stop feeling safe with each other.
You will learn:
The difference between emotional safety and agreement
How your nervous system reacts during conflict
How to recognize when safety has dropped between you
Emotional safety scripts you can use in real time
What to say less of and what to say more of when you want connection
How to repair after a moment where safety went missing
Thank you for doing this work with me and for your courage in looking at your patterns with honesty and compassion.