For engaged couples, anywhere in the world
Online Premarital Coaching
Learn how the two of you connect, fight and find your way back to each other while those patterns are still small and easy to change. Five, ten or fifteen online sessions with relationship coach Nicole Bihl, each one with a focused topic and something practical to take home.
“We create new experiences of being understood, supported and connected.”
Nicole Bihl
5, 10 or 15
Sessions to choose from, sixty minutes each with Nicole Bihl
Online
Wherever the two of you are, at times that suit you both
Secure Love
Julie Menanno's national bestselling book, the framework behind every session
Giftable
Parents can buy a package and pass the code to the couple
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What is premarital coaching?
Premarital coaching is a series of guided sessions that helps an engaged couple understand how they connect, how they handle conflict, and how they repair, before those patterns settle into a marriage.
At The Secure Relationship it’s built on attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy, the same approach behind Secure Love. Every couple has a cycle, a familiar dance that starts when one of you feels hurt or alone. In these sessions you learn to spot yours early, talk about what sits underneath it, and practice coming back together.
Premarital coaching
A set package of five, ten or fifteen sessions, each with its own topic, for couples getting ready to marry. Paid once, booked as you go.
Weekly coaching
Ongoing sessions with any of our coaches, one week at a time, for couples who are already married or already stuck. See relationship coaching.
Why now
The easiest time to learn this is while things are good
Couples who are happy and excited often get the most from premarital work. You have the calm and the goodwill to actually practice, and nobody is coming in hurt.
Think of it like learning to drive on a quiet street before you take the highway. The hard moments in a marriage come for every couple: a move, a new baby, money stress, a parent who gets sick. When they arrive, you’ll already know how your cycle starts and what each of you needs to feel safe again.
And if something hard is already showing up between you, that’s okay too. It just means you have something real to work with.
What you’ll talk about
Topics built around the conversations that matter
Every session has a focused topic, a guided conversation with Nicole, and something practical to work on before the next one.
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How you connect
Attachment, emotional connection, and what each of you needs to feel close.
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How you fight and repair
Communication, conflict, and finding your way back to each other after a rupture.
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The life you’re building
Money, family, children, physical intimacy, the household, and a shared vision for your marriage.
Choose your package
Three premarital packages
Sixty-minute online sessions with Nicole Bihl. Pay once, get a code, and book each session when it suits you.
The Foundation
5 sessions
$1,875
Attachment, communication, conflict, emotional connection, your biggest expectations for marriage, and a plan for staying connected after the wedding.
The Secure Partnership
10 sessions
$3,750
Attachment patterns, communication, conflict and repair, finances, physical intimacy, family, children, household responsibilities, and a shared vision for your marriage.
The Marriage Deep Dive
15 sessions
$5,625
Everything in The Secure Partnership, with more time for family of origin, protective patterns, vulnerability, trust, boundaries, and practicing new ways of connecting in session.
◆ Online, wherever you are ◆ Sixty-minute sessions ◆ Book each session with your code ◆ Parents can give any package as a gift
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Choose your package
Pick five, ten or fifteen sessions and check out. You’ll get a code for your sessions, and parents can buy any package as a gift.
The Foundation, five sessions
The Secure Partnership, ten sessions
The Marriage Deep Dive, fifteen sessions
Goal: the right amount of time for what you want to cover.
How it works
From checkout to your first session
Every session has a focused topic, a guided conversation with Nicole, and something practical to work on before the next one. It’s all built on Emotionally Focused Therapy and attachment theory, the same framework behind Secure Love.
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Book with your code
Use the code to book each sixty-minute session on Nicole’s calendar, at a time that works for both of you.
Sessions run online, wherever you are
Join together, or from two different places
Cancel 48 hours ahead or the session is charged
Goal: sessions that fit around work and wedding planning.
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Meet Nicole online
Each session has its own topic, a guided conversation, and something to practice before the next one.
How you connect, and what each of you needs to feel close
How you fight, and how you find your way back
The life you’re building: money, family, children and the household
Goal: knowing your cycle before the wedding, and how to step out of it together.
What you’ll walk away with
A clear picture of the cycle the two of you fall into
Words for what each of you needs to feel safe and close
A way back to each other after a hard conversation
A shared vision for the marriage you want to build
Whether things feel easy right now or something hard is already showing up, premarital coaching meets you where you are.
For parents
A wedding gift they’ll use for the rest of their marriage
Many parents buy premarital coaching for their engaged son or daughter. You buy the package, pass the code to the couple, and they book each session themselves.
How you offer it matters. Lead with how happy you are for them, and make it about what you wish someone had given you at their age. Something like:
“We think the two of you are worth investing in. If you’d ever like to do this, it’s yours, no pressure at all.”
Your coach
Meet Nicole Bihl
Nicole has fifteen years of experience working with couples and advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy. She helps partners understand the emotions and attachment needs underneath conflict.
Her style is warm, curious and practical, with plenty of humor. Away from the work you’ll find her hiking, dancing a tango, or trying to keep up with her kids.
“She’s a great partner and coach for us, and helps us see ourselves and the other, as well as our negative cycle.”
Couples client
Questions, answered
Premarital coaching FAQs
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Premarital coaching is a series of guided sessions that helps an engaged couple understand how they connect, how they handle conflict, and how they repair, before those patterns settle into a marriage. At The Secure Relationship it is grounded in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy.Yes. Buy any package, then pass the code to the couple so they can book their own sessions.
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The Foundation is $1,875 for five sessions, The Secure Partnership is $3,750 for ten, and The Marriage Deep Dive is $5,625 for fifteen. Every session is sixty minutes with Nicole Bihl.
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Yes. Every session happens online, so you can join from anywhere in the world, together or from two different places.
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Five sessions covers the essentials. Ten adds money, family, children, physical intimacy and the household. Fifteen gives you more time for family of origin, trust and practicing new ways of connecting in session.
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Yes. Buy any package, then pass the code to the couple so they can book their own sessions.
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After checkout you get a code. Use it to book each sixty-minute session on Nicole’s calendar. Sessions canceled less than 48 hours ahead are charged.
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Yes. Couples who are doing well have the calm to practice, and learning your cycle early means you’ll recognize it when bigger stresses arrive.
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Premarital coaching is educational and forward-looking, focused on skills and conversations for the marriage ahead. Premarital counseling is usually offered by a licensed therapist and can address mental health concerns.
Ready when you are
Start your marriage knowing how to find each other
Choose a package, or book a fifteen-minute call with Nicole first to see whether it feels like the right fit. The $50 comes off your first session.