A lot of people carry a quiet question in their relationships: Am I asking for too much?

It can show up after you ask for more connection, more responsiveness, or more emotional presence and then immediately second-guess yourself. Maybe you’ve been told you’re too sensitive, too demanding, or too much in general, and now part of you believes it before the conversation even starts.

Over time, that belief can change how you show up. You might hold things in to avoid conflict. Or you might come in with more intensity because you don’t feel heard. Either way, the focus shifts away from understanding the need and toward questioning yourself.

What often gets missed is that many of these moments are not actually about having “too much” need. They’re about what happens around the need. How it’s expressed. How it’s received. And what unfolds between two people in those conversations.

You might notice this in the moments that don’t go the way you hoped. A conversation that turns tense quickly. An attempt to share something important that leaves you feeling misunderstood. Or a pattern where you walk away feeling either unheard or like you shouldn’t have brought it up at all.

It’s easy, in those moments, to land on the conclusion that the need itself is the problem. But often, that conclusion comes from the experience of the interaction, not from the truth of the need.

Inside this group session, Julie helps unpack what’s really happening underneath these moments and why so many people end up labeling themselves as “too much.” The conversation moves beyond the surface question and into the patterns that make needs hard to express and even harder to receive.

If you’re already a member, you can watch the full replay for a deeper look at this work. If you’re not, you’re invited to join and access these conversations, along with the full library of recordings, to support you in building a more secure and connected relationship.