People-pleasing can masquerade convincingly as love, but often it is fear in disguise. In this Secure Love Club session, Julie Menanno returns to the difference between people-pleasing and appeasing and helps you recognize when you are doing it. She explains that healthy giving comes from care and a real desire to connect, while people-pleasing comes from anxiety and the drive to avoid rejection: bending over backwards so someone will not be upset with you. Julie shows how to tell the two apart in everyday moments and what to do differently when you notice yourself abandoning your own needs just to stay safe. You will learn why chronic appeasing quietly breeds resentment and disconnection, and how to start showing up honestly. Freeing and practical for anyone who struggles to say no or to take up space in their relationships. The full teaching is inside for members.