In this session, Julie unpacks “Negative Cycles”—the hidden loop that starts with a quick ouch inside one partner and tumbles into protest or shut-down before anyone realizes what’s happening. Julie maps the flow from Trigger → Primary Hurt → Protect Move on screen and shows how it can sound like raised voices, icy silence, score-keeping, or a sudden exit.

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “How are we back here again?” this replay offers the language to name your cycle, a simple turn-toward check-in to slow it down, and fresh hope for turning the pattern into a place of teamwork rather than tug-of-war.

Anatomy of a Trigger Worksheet

Negative Cycle Worksheet