How Therapy Can Help With an Avoidant Attachment Style

How Therapy Can Help With an Avoidant Attachment Style

Quick answer: Therapy can help people with avoidant attachment communicate their wants and needs, better understand their partner, and learn to recognize and express their feelings. It can also help resolve childhood attachment issues so they are more manageable in current relationships, support being a more emotionally available parent, and lead to a fuller, more emotionally rich life with greater connection to yourself and others.

  1. It can help you communicate your wants and needs to your partner, so you will feel closer and more empowered in your relationship.

  2. It can help you better understand your partner, so that you can more effectively meet their emotional needs.

  3. It can help you learn how to recognize and express your feelings.

  4. It can help you resolve childhood attachment issues, so they are more manageable in your current relationships.

  5. It can help you be a more emotionally available parent.

  6. It can help you lead a fuller, more emotionally rich life, and feel more connected to yourself and others.

Related Resources

These offerings support the healing process for those with avoidant attachment styles:

  • Attachment 101 Course: Learn the basics of attachment styles, including avoidant patterns, and how they show up in relationships.

  • Understanding Shame Workshop: Shame often drives emotional distancing. This workshop helps you identify and transform those patterns.

  • Individual & Couples Coaching: Work one-on-one or with a partner to practice emotional expression and secure connection.

  • The Secure Love Podcast: Listen to real-time coaching with couples navigating attachment issues, including avoidant dynamics.

  • Secure Love Book: Julie Menanno’s bestselling book walks you through the steps of building secure connection, no matter your attachment style.

Frequently Asked Questions

How does therapy help someone with avoidant attachment connect with their partner?

It can help you communicate your wants and needs to your partner, so you feel closer and more empowered in your relationship. It can also help you better understand your partner so you can more effectively meet their emotional needs.

Can therapy help an avoidant person express feelings they usually keep hidden?

Yes. Therapy can help you learn how to recognize and express your feelings, and it can help you resolve childhood attachment issues so they are more manageable in your current relationships.

What broader life benefits can therapy offer for avoidant attachment?

It can help you be a more emotionally available parent, and it can help you lead a fuller, more emotionally rich life while feeling more connected to yourself and others.

It can help you lead a fuller, more emotionally rich life, and feel more connected to yourself and others.
— Julie Menanno

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Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC

Julie Menanno, MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and Relationship Coach. Julie operates a clinical therapy practice in Bozeman, Montana, and leads a global relationship coaching practice with a team of trained coaches. She is an expert in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples and specializes in attachment issues within relationships.

Julie is the author of the best-selling book Secure Love, published by Simon and Schuster in January 2024. She provides relationship insights to over 1.3 million Instagram followers and hosts The Secure Love Podcast, where she shares real-time couples coaching sessions to help listeners navigate relational challenges. Julie also hosts a bi-weekly discussion group on relationship and self-help topics. A sought-after public speaker and podcast guest, Julie is dedicated to helping individuals and couples foster secure, fulfilling relationships.

Julie lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband of 25 years, their six children, and their beloved dog. In her free time, she enjoys hiking, skiing, Pilates, reading psychology books, and studying Italian.

https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/
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