Attachment Based Relationship Tips
Looking to strengthen your relationship? Our blog offers expert relationship tips rooted in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Learn how to identify your attachment style, communicate more effectively, and foster emotional safety with your partner. From overcoming conflict to building deeper trust, our practical advice and tools, created by couples therapist Julie Menanno, are designed to help you move toward a secure and fulfilling connection. Dive in and start transforming your relationships today!
Confused About Your Attachment Style? Keep the 4 C's of Attachment Styles in Mind....
Understanding your attachment style can help you navigate relationships more effectively. Whether anxious, avoidant, disorganized, or secure, recognizing how you connect, seek comfort, and handle conflict offers valuable insight into building healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Understanding the Four Attachment Styles in Relationships
Explore the four attachment styles—secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized—and how they shape emotional connection and dynamics in romantic relationships.
What is "The Negative Cycle?"
Break free from the Negative Cycle in relationships by understanding its roots in attachment needs, vulnerability, and behaviors, and learn how to foster connection.
When Your Partner Isn’t Growing With You....Relationship Blocks
Navigate relationship challenges when your partner isn’t growing with you by addressing communication blocks, rebuilding trust, and fostering mutual understanding.
It's Okay to be Angry: Embracing Anger is a Normal (And Healthy) Part of Life
Embrace anger as a normal emotion and transform it into a tool for personal growth, better communication, and stronger relationships.
Your Part in Relationship Problems: Things You Might Be Missing
Discover your role in relationship problems & learn to address them effectively in this insightful blog by Julie Menanno. Take steps towards healthier dynamics today.
What is Earned Secure Attachment?
Discover how Earned Secure Attachment can transform relationships by fostering emotional safety, reducing shame, and creating meaningful connections.
The Invigor Medical Podcast
Julie explains that secure attachment is characterized by low fear and easy connection, while anxious attachment involves high fears of abandonment and aggressive attempts to reconnect.
The CLS Experience
Let’s talk about the secrets to creating more secure, empathetic, and resilient relationships.
The Sabrina Zohar Show
Julie emphasizes that healthy relationships aren't about accommodating each other's insecurities or avoiding triggers but about engaging in mutual growth and healing.
The Jen Hardy Show
Ever wondered why your partner pulls away just when you want to get closer? Or maybe you're the one who needs a bit of space when things get intense.
The Dude Therapist
A healthy relationship is defined by compatibility, shared values, and effective conflict management.
I Don't Think We Talk Enough About...
Whether you are single or in a relationship, I have a feeling that you will really enjoy this episode, as I did.
The Kim Gravel Show
Whether you're married, dating, or single, there's so much value in understanding how unmet needs and emotional connections shape our interactions.
The Release Podcast
We define attachment styles, examine how they can change depending on the relationship, and dive in to why the nervous system should be the first thing you worry about when trying to communicate with your partner.
WHOOP Podcast
Kristen and Julie discuss how Julie started working with couples, couples therapy vs individual therapy, finding optimism in couples therapy, characteristics of a healthy relationship, emotionally focused therapy, the four attachment styles, practicing secure love, red flags in a relationship, and the organization of Julie’s book.
The Trouble Club Podcast
Ever wondered why you and your partner have the same fight over and over, why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple's sex life and how to restore that sexual connection?
Legacy Impact Coaching: Unlocking Relationship Sucess
In this video, I sit down with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Julie Menanno to discuss Attachment Theory & Attachment Styles.
The Best Relationship Podcast
In this insightful conversation, Julie and Philippe delve into the true meaning of secure love, based on the principles in Julie's latest book.
Good Mourning
Loss impacts relationships—some grow stronger, some strain, and some fracture entirely. So, how can we cultivate relationships that feel secure and safe as we navigate life’s challenges?

Most couples believe that if they could just get on the same page, their conflicts would finally settle down. The problem is that agreement alone does not guarantee connection. You can agree and still feel unseen. You can disagree and stay deeply bonded.
In this meeting, Emotional Safety vs. Agreement, we will look at conflict through an emotional safety lens. We will explore what emotional safety actually feels like, what happens in the nervous system when safety drops, and how negative cycles begin when you and your partner stop feeling safe with each other.
You will learn:
The difference between emotional safety and agreement
How your nervous system reacts during conflict
How to recognize when safety has dropped between you
Emotional safety scripts you can use in real time
What to say less of and what to say more of when you want connection
How to repair after a moment where safety went missing
Thank you for doing this work with me and for your courage in looking at your patterns with honesty and compassion.