Validation: The Key to Emotional Connection
What is Validation?
Validation is the practice of acknowledging and affirming your partner’s emotions without judgment. It doesn’t mean you always agree—it means you recognize that their feelings make sense in their experience.
Examples of Validation in Relationships
"Your feelings make sense."
"I hear you."
"I understand you."
"I’ve felt this before too. You’re not alone."
"You have every right to be upset. I’m right here."
"I know it hurts."
"Your ideas matter to me."
"You’re not too much. I like showing up for you."
Resources for Strengthening Your Relationship
Secure Love by Julie Menanno for deeper insights into attachment and emotional connection.
The Attachment 101 Course to explore how attachment impacts relationships.
Julie’s Group for live discussions on relational dynamics.
Coaching Sessions for personalized support in improving communication and connection.
Validation is a small shift that makes a big difference. When in doubt—just let your partner know they’re not alone.
“Validation is not about agreeing—it’s about letting your partner know their feelings make sense and they are not alone.”
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