In Chapter 3 of Secure Love, we begin one of the most foundational steps in the healing process—identifying your attachment style. In this session, I guide readers through recognizing the patterns that shape how they relate, connect, and protect themselves in relationships.

Boundaries do not have to be harsh to be effective. Gentle boundaries help you protect emotional safety, interrupt negative cycles, and stay committed to connection while still honoring your limits.

Leaning in—offering empathy even when you don’t agree—isn’t the whole relationship, but it is the beginning. Here’s why it matters and how to do it well.

Do you find yourself constantly testing your partner’s love? This blog explores why reassurance never feels like enough and how you can begin to build real trust—from the inside out.

In this week’s Secure Love Book Club, I guide you through Chapter 2, where we unpack the fundamentals of attachment theory and how it affects your ability to feel safe, seen, and connected in romantic relationships.

Trying to control your environment—like keeping a spotless house—can sometimes be a way to manage inner anxiety caused by relationship disconnection. But when that strategy backfires, it can create more of the very disconnection you’re trying to avoid. This post explores how personal anxiety shows up in relationships, and how couples can break the cycle.

In emotionally stuck relationships, your partner isn’t the enemy. The negative cycle is. Learn how to identify the cycle, understand each other’s roles, and begin the process of healing.

In this first meeting of the Secure Love Book Club, Julie Menanno introduces the foundation of her book and dives into Chapter One, helping participants understand how negative cycles erode connection and how we can begin to heal by recognizing the deeper pain underneath conflict.

Secure relationships are built on mutual respect and emotional safety. These examples of attachment-friendly boundaries show how to protect connection while still speaking your truth.

Should you get back together with the person who ghosted you? How can you build a secure relationship after being ghosted?

Healing after a breakup isn’t easy—but it’s possible. Learn how to face the pain, let go with intention, and build emotional resilience as you move through the process.

Emotional presence is the ability to join someone in their feelings without losing yourself in the process. When practiced consistently, it deepens connection and builds trust.

Emotional attunement is the skill of staying present with your partner’s feelings without trying to fix, correct, or rush them. When you learn how to be emotionally attuned, conflict de-escalates faster, emotional safety grows, and problem-solving finally becomes possible.

If you’re not showing up, there’s none of you to connect with. Authenticity is the foundation of emotional availability—and it's something you can learn.

Emotional validation isn’t about agreeing with your partner—it’s about showing them that their feelings matter. And when it comes to emotional availability, few things are more powerful.

Tough conversations can easily spiral into disconnection when couples fall into the negative cycle. But it doesn’t have to go that way. These tips can help you communicate better, create emotional safety, and stay connected even when things get hard.

Vulnerability is the foundation of connection—and without it, relationships stay surface-level. But when you've learned to hide, overshare, or shut down, it can feel impossible to get it right. Here’s how to begin.

The real enemy in your relationship isn’t your partner—it’s the negative cycle you both get caught in. When you understand how it works, you can work together to step out of it and reconnect.

It may look like the avoidant partner doesn’t care, but in reality, they’re overwhelmed. When conflict escalates, their instinct is to shut down—not to hurt their partner, but to protect themselves.

When anxious partners feel dismissed, they often double down in protest. It’s not about control—it’s about emotional survival and the fear of being too much to love.