Attachment Based Relationship Tips
Looking to strengthen your relationship? Our blog offers expert relationship tips rooted in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Learn how to identify your attachment style, communicate more effectively, and foster emotional safety with your partner. From overcoming conflict to building deeper trust, our practical advice and tools, created by couples therapist Julie Menanno, are designed to help you move toward a secure and fulfilling connection. Dive in and start transforming your relationships today!
Reaching and Responding: Chapter 7 of the Secure Love Book Club
Reaching and responding are the smallest, most powerful moves in a relationship—and the ones most likely to be misunderstood. Chapter 7 helps you spot the reach, respond with intention, and change the entire trajectory of a moment.
Preventing Your Negative Cycle: Chapter 6 of the Secure Love Book Club
Learn how to turn everyday interactions into an “attachment-friendly” environment, swap reflexive fight-or-flight reactions for healthy connection, and use Julie’s E-V-I-C-T framework to keep shame (and negative cycles) out of your relationship.
After the Fight: 3 Options That Shape Your Relationship
After a fight, couples often choose between self-abandonment, protest, or repair. This post breaks down the three paths and helps you choose connection over disconnection.
Can You Lean Into Your Partner’s Emotions?
Leaning in—offering empathy even when you don’t agree—isn’t the whole relationship, but it is the beginning. Here’s why it matters and how to do it well.
Attachment-Friendly Boundaries Sound Like This
Secure relationships are built on mutual respect and emotional safety. These examples of attachment-friendly boundaries show how to protect connection while still speaking your truth.
In this week’s group, Julie hosted an open Q&A, giving members the chance to bring forward the struggles most alive in their relationships right now. The questions ranged widely, but all carried a common thread: how attachment dynamics show up in everyday moments of disconnection.
Julie answered questions about avoidant partners and intimacy, the pull to catastrophize when disconnection happens, and how to approach recurring bedroom struggles without falling into blame or shutdown. She also addressed how partners can recognize when fears from the past are fueling present-day conflicts, and what to do when one person is reaching for closeness but the other feels overwhelmed.
If you’ve ever felt unsure how to navigate your partner’s distance, struggled to bring up sensitive topics without escalating conflict, or wondered why the same fears keep surfacing in your negative cycles, this session will give you fresh perspective and practical tools.