Attachment Based Relationship Tips
Looking to strengthen your relationship? Our blog offers expert relationship tips rooted in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Learn how to identify your attachment style, communicate more effectively, and foster emotional safety with your partner. From overcoming conflict to building deeper trust, our practical advice and tools, created by couples therapist Julie Menanno, are designed to help you move toward a secure and fulfilling connection. Dive in and start transforming your relationships today!
Resolve Conflict Using the D.E.A.R M.A.N. Method
Learn how the D.E.A.R M.A.N. method can help you express yourself clearly, set boundaries, and resolve conflict while maintaining emotional connection in your relationship.
How Do Secure Partners Do That?
Securely attached partners communicate effectively, regulate emotions, and maintain strong boundaries while fostering connection. Learn how these behaviors create thriving relationships.
Why Do Disorganized Partners Do That?
Disorganized attachment can make relationships feel unpredictable and overwhelming. Learn how survival strategies formed in childhood impact adult relationships and discover steps for healing.
Why Do Avoidant Attached Partners Do That?
Understanding why avoidant partners engage in behaviors like appeasing, shutting down, or defending themselves is key to breaking negative cycles. Learn how to transform these behaviors and build a more secure relationship.
Why Do Those with Anxious Attachment Do That?
Anxious attachment behaviors often stem from deep fears of abandonment. Learn why these behaviors feel safe and how to shift toward healthier relationship patterns.
Common Experience of Avoidant Partners: Fear of Conflict
Avoidant partners often struggle with emotions, both within themselves and in relationships. Learn how to reconnect with your emotions and build deeper connections.
Things to Know About Your Relationship And Sex
Sexual intimacy offers numerous physical and psychological benefits, but a healthy emotional connection is the foundation of a fulfilling sex life. Learn how to nurture intimacy and address challenges in your relationship.
How Does Attachment Play a Part in Long Distance Relationships?
Long-distance relationships bring attachment needs into sharp focus. Learn how to strengthen security in your relationship before focusing on the logistics of managing distance.
When I'm Sorry Isn't Enough: Repairing Trust Beyond Apology
Saying 'I’m sorry' isn’t always enough. Learn how to truly repair trust by understanding, validating, and committing to change in your relationship.
Insecure Attachment Styles and How They Keep You Stuck
Anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles often keep partners stuck in negative cycles. Learn how to break free by improving communication, self-awareness, and emotional regulation.
Common Experience of Anxious Partners: The Sense of Over Responsibility
Many anxious partners struggle with over responsibility, feeling the need to control everything to feel safe. Learn how to balance expectations, release control, and build a healthier relationship dynamic.
Being Emotionally Supportive is NOT the Same as Being Your Partner's Therapist
Being emotionally supportive in a relationship is a skill that can be learned by both partners, not just a job for therapists. Discover how emotional support and engagement can be practiced to strengthen your connection.
Relationship Trigger Toolbox: Handle Emotional Reactions
Learn how to handle relationship triggers with self-reflection, regulation, empathy, and effective communication. Use the Relationship Trigger Tool-Box to break negative cycles and foster emotional safety in your relationship.
How Both Avoidant AND Anxious Partners Block Emotional Intimacy
Both avoidant and anxious partners block emotional intimacy in unique but equally intense ways. By understanding these dynamics, couples can begin to break the negative cycle and build a more secure, emotionally connected relationship.
Healthy Assertion vs. Reactive Anger
Reactive anger can trigger negative cycles in relationships. Learn how healthy assertion can shift communication, promote emotional safety, and create space for understanding and compromise.
Your “Window of Tolerance”
Your window of tolerance is your internal safe space for emotional balance. Learn how to find and stay in this space to improve your well-being, regulate emotions, and build healthier relationships.
Spiraling Higher Podcast
If you have ever been in a relationship, or supported someone in one, then you KNOW how distressing it is to deal with feeling like your partner doesn't care about your feelings OR as if their feelings are TOO MUCH.
Is It Time to Seek Professional Support for Your Relationship?
Are you caught in repetitive arguments, facing trust issues, or feeling distant from your partner? Explore how couples coaching can provide the professional support needed to rebuild trust, connection, and intimacy.
How to Navigate Hard Conversations with Your Partner
Hard conversations in relationships can be challenging, but with emotional regulation, empathy, and clear communication, you can create a foundation of safety and teamwork for problem-solving.
How Anger Shows Up in Anxious Attachment, and What Is the Work?
Anger can feel overwhelming and frequent if you have anxious attachment. Learn how this response is rooted in vulnerability, fear, and past wounds, and discover strategies for healing and assertiveness.

Most couples believe that if they could just get on the same page, their conflicts would finally settle down. The problem is that agreement alone does not guarantee connection. You can agree and still feel unseen. You can disagree and stay deeply bonded.
In this meeting, Emotional Safety vs. Agreement, we will look at conflict through an emotional safety lens. We will explore what emotional safety actually feels like, what happens in the nervous system when safety drops, and how negative cycles begin when you and your partner stop feeling safe with each other.
You will learn:
The difference between emotional safety and agreement
How your nervous system reacts during conflict
How to recognize when safety has dropped between you
Emotional safety scripts you can use in real time
What to say less of and what to say more of when you want connection
How to repair after a moment where safety went missing
Thank you for doing this work with me and for your courage in looking at your patterns with honesty and compassion.