If you’ve ever found yourself chasing a partner who pulls away, or needing space from someone who seems to need more from you than you can give, this session will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.

Julie breaks down how these two attachment styles are both reacting to the same fear — losing connection — but in completely opposite ways. The anxious partner’s pursuit and the avoidant partner’s withdrawal are both coping mechanisms meant to protect the self from pain, yet they often create the very disconnection both fear most.

From “narcissist” and “codependent” to “avoidant” and “anxious,” we often rely on these words to make sense of behavior in relationships. But as Julie explains, every label ultimately points back to one thing: attachment.

If you’ve ever wondered whether labeling your partner or yourself helps or hurts your growth, this session will help you see how attachment theory offers a more compassionate, accurate lens. You’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of what’s really happening underneath the labels we use every day.

In this week’s group, Julie hosted an open Q&A, giving members the chance to bring forward the struggles most alive in their relationships right now. The questions ranged widely, but all carried a common thread: how attachment dynamics show up in everyday moments of disconnection.

Julie answered questions about avoidant partners and intimacy, the pull to catastrophize when disconnection happens, and how to approach recurring bedroom struggles without falling into blame or shutdown. She also addressed how partners can recognize when fears from the past are fueling present-day conflicts, and what to do when one person is reaching for closeness but the other feels overwhelmed.

If you’ve ever felt unsure how to navigate your partner’s distance, struggled to bring up sensitive topics without escalating conflict, or wondered why the same fears keep surfacing in your negative cycles, this session will give you fresh perspective and practical tools.

We often think of love as holding on, but sometimes the most loving thing we can do is step back—not with anger or punishment, but with compassion, clarity, and boundaries.

We talked about how to recognize when detachment may be needed, especially when your partner isn’t able to emotionally show up in the way you need. I explained the difference between healthy detachment and preoccupation, and why detachment isn’t about shutting down or giving up—it’s about protecting your peace of mind, giving up the illusion of control, and staying rooted in your own security.

We also looked at the surprising gifts of detachment: how it can help you focus on self-care, open space for more honest connection, and even deepen your capacity to love. If you’ve ever felt caught between holding on and letting go, this session will guide you toward a more grounded, compassionate path forward.

If you missed it live, I encourage you to watch the replay.