Attachment Based Relationship Tips
Looking to strengthen your relationship? Our blog offers expert relationship tips rooted in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Learn how to identify your attachment style, communicate more effectively, and foster emotional safety with your partner. From overcoming conflict to building deeper trust, our practical advice and tools, created by couples therapist Julie Menanno, are designed to help you move toward a secure and fulfilling connection. Dive in and start transforming your relationships today!
From the Relationship Therapist: How I Personally Approach My Relationships
Discover how a relationship therapist navigates her own relationships with authenticity, humor, and a commitment to personal growth.
Attachment Needs in Action
Explore how attachment needs show up in relationships and why meeting them fosters emotional safety, connection, and trust between partners and friends.
How Expanding Conversations Can Strengthen Your Relationship and Build Secure Attachment
Learn how to deepen emotional intimacy in your relationship by expanding small conversations into meaningful connections, creating secure attachment and a stronger bond.
Blaming vs. Owning: Taking Responsibility in Relationships
Discover the difference between blaming and owning in relationships, and learn how taking responsibility for your emotional needs can create space for healing, growth, and connection.
Common Question: How Can I Have Attachment Needs While Being Responsible for My Emotional Needs?
Learn how to balance emotional responsibility with attachment needs, foster mutual respect, and create closeness in your romantic relationship.
Taking Breaks from Arguments
Learn how taking breaks during arguments can improve communication and create emotional safety for both anxious and avoidant partners.
The Fight: What’s Really Happening and How to Do It Differently
Learn how to transform relationship fights by addressing unmet attachment needs, creating emotional safety, and fostering connection instead of conflict.
Feeling Triggered In Your Relationship?
Feeling triggered in your relationship? Learn these five steps: look inward, self-regulate, balance your perspective, assess timing, and follow through.
How to Help Soothe Your Distressed Partner
Discover how to support your distressed partner effectively with self-regulation, validation, and timing, creating a safer emotional environment for both of you.
Secure Attachment Is Not Enmeshment: How to Avoid Enmeshment in Your Relationship
Enmeshment in relationships can blur boundaries and hinder individuality. Learn how to avoid enmeshment and foster secure attachment for a healthier connection.
The Importance of Timing in Your Relationship: What It Means and Why It Matters
Timing in relationships affects both when and how you address hard topics. Learn to improve timing for better communication.
Fear-Based Questions vs. Self-Security Thoughts: Navigating Relationship Anxiety
Fear-based questions like 'Do you even think about me?' often arise from insecurity. Learn how self-security thoughts can shift your perspective and improve your communication.
When You Have To Ask the Question...Should I End My Relationship?
Wondering 'should I end my relationship'? This guide explores 7 essential steps to evaluate your connection, from unhealed wounds to hope for change.
From Mrs. to Ms.
Julie also shares actionable advice for anyone feeling stuck in conflict or disconnection, offering hope for singles navigating modern dating challenges like hookup culture and dating apps.
Not Your Ordinary Parts
Julie’s approach is not just therapeutic but transformational, offering practical tools for fostering trust, vulnerability, and emotional safety; foundations upon which healthy relationships thrive.
Start Your Healing Journey with Our Attachment Style Quiz
Discover why self regulation might feel out of reach, the barriers that hinder it, and actionable steps to build emotional resilience and connection.
Why self regulation might not be working
Discover why self regulation might feel out of reach, the barriers that hinder it, and actionable steps to build emotional resilience and connection.
How to Heal Attachment Wounds: Expert Advice and Strategies
Attachment wounds can deeply impact trust, but with openness, positive experiences, and healing communication, relationships can recover and thrive."
Why Avoidant Attachment is Linked to a Fear of Failure (Or of Being Seen as a Failure)
Discover why avoidant attachment is linked to fear of failure, how it shapes relationship dynamics, and actionable strategies for healing and connection.
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In this session, we explore what it really means to “expect too much” in a relationship. Julie talks about how sometimes, without realizing it, we lean too heavily on our partner to manage emotions we haven’t yet learned to hold ourselves. This can show up as constant venting, needing endless reassurance, or expecting our partner to join us in unhealthy ways of coping.... like over controlling, avoiding, or shutting down.