Attachment Based Relationship Tips
Looking to strengthen your relationship? Our blog offers expert relationship tips rooted in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Learn how to identify your attachment style, communicate more effectively, and foster emotional safety with your partner. From overcoming conflict to building deeper trust, our practical advice and tools, created by couples therapist Julie Menanno, are designed to help you move toward a secure and fulfilling connection. Dive in and start transforming your relationships today!
Triggered by Your Partner? Respond with LOVE
When your partner triggers you, the L.O.V.E. tool helps you pause, regulate, and respond with clarity and care. Here's how to shift from reaction to connection.
Toxic vs. Healthy Anger: The Difference Between Reactivity and Assertiveness
Anger can divide or connect—depending on how it’s expressed. This post shows the difference between reactive and assertive anger and how to use it for deeper connection.
Why Your Partner’s Bad Mood Triggers You—and What to Do
Your partner’s bad mood doesn’t have to mean disconnection. Learn how to regulate your nervous system, reflect with empathy, and stay connected—even when it’s hard.
Splitting vs. Integrating: How to Shift from Extreme Thinking to Balanced Perspectives
Understanding the difference between splitting and integrating can help you develop a healthier, more balanced perspective in relationships. Learn how to move from extreme thinking to a more integrated way of seeing yourself and your partner.
Tips for Healing an Insecure Attachment
Learn how to heal an insecure attachment by improving communication, regulating emotions, and building a healthier sense of self.
In this week’s group, Julie hosted an open Q&A, giving members the chance to bring forward the struggles most alive in their relationships right now. The questions ranged widely, but all carried a common thread: how attachment dynamics show up in everyday moments of disconnection.
Julie answered questions about avoidant partners and intimacy, the pull to catastrophize when disconnection happens, and how to approach recurring bedroom struggles without falling into blame or shutdown. She also addressed how partners can recognize when fears from the past are fueling present-day conflicts, and what to do when one person is reaching for closeness but the other feels overwhelmed.
If you’ve ever felt unsure how to navigate your partner’s distance, struggled to bring up sensitive topics without escalating conflict, or wondered why the same fears keep surfacing in your negative cycles, this session will give you fresh perspective and practical tools.