Attachment Based Relationship Tips

Looking to strengthen your relationship? Our blog offers expert relationship tips rooted in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Learn how to identify your attachment style, communicate more effectively, and foster emotional safety with your partner. From overcoming conflict to building deeper trust, our practical advice and tools, created by couples therapist Julie Menanno, are designed to help you move toward a secure and fulfilling connection. Dive in and start transforming your relationships today!

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Chapter 9: Attachment Injuries and Repair

In Chapter 9 of Secure Love, we explore attachment injuries—what they are, how they form, and what it takes to repair them. These moments of relational pain shape our protective strategies, but they also offer an opportunity for deeper connection if we’re willing to stay emotionally engaged.

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Episode #76- Anger and Resentment
Episode #76- Anger and Resentment

If you feel stuck in anger or resentment and it’s affecting your ability to connect, this session will help you understand what that anger is really trying to tell you and what to do with it.

Episode #75- Emotional Disgust
Episode #75- Emotional Disgust

In this session, Julie explores how emotional disgust—toward our own feelings or our partner’s—can silently block intimacy and emotional engagement. A powerful conversation with real-life examples and tools for healing.

Episode #74: Relationship Grief
Episode #74: Relationship Grief

Old hurts can stall even the strongest couples. In this replay, Julie guides us through naming, feeling, and releasing relationship grief—so negative cycles lose their power and secure connection can finally take root.

Episode #73: Feeling Stuck in your relationship?
Episode #73: Feeling Stuck in your relationship?

Julie Menanno pinpoints the hidden trio—unmet needs, fear, and negative cycles—that keep partners spinning in place, and shares the first tiny moves that push a relationship forward again.

Episode #72: What is a Negative Cycle?
Episode #72: What is a Negative Cycle?

Negative cycles quietly weave partners into the very conflict they want to escape. Learn to notice the pattern—and the soft first moves that loosen its grip.