Relationship Grief: Why Old Hurts Keep Couples Stuck (and How to Move Forward)
Spotting the Hidden Losses Holding Your Relationship Back
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Ever notice how the same argument keeps playing on a loop—even after you promise yourselves it won’t happen again? In this week’s Group session, Julie Menanno revealed the quiet culprit behind that déjà-vu feeling: relationship grief.
Relationship grief isn’t just about losing a loved one; it’s the heaviness that grows when broken trust, dashed expectations, or years of “lost time” never get a proper funeral. Left unspoken, that grief shows up as chronic anger, anxiety, shutdowns, or substance use—fuel for the negative cycle that keeps partners at odds.
Inside the full replay, members learn:
Three sneaky sources of grief most couples overlook—betrayal wounds, the fantasy of what-could-have-been, and mourning “wasted years.”
Why ignoring grief keeps you chasing false control instead of real change.
A simple four-step process to name, feel, talk through, and co-regulate grief so it no longer hijacks conversations.
How to hold space for each other’s pain without falling into blame, shame, or “What about me?” rebuttals.
Practical scripts for grieving together without sparking a new fight.
If you’ve ever thought, “We should be further along by now,” this talk shows you how to grieve the relationship you imagined—and finally nurture the secure attachment you deserve.
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Old hurts can stall even the strongest couples. In this replay, Julie guides us through naming, feeling, and releasing relationship grief—so negative cycles lose their power and secure connection can finally take root.