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What is attachment theory and why does it matter, the four attachment styles explained

What Is Attachment Theory? The 4 Attachment Styles

What is your attachment style, anxious avoidant disorganized or secure

What’s Your Attachment Style?

What makes a relationship thrive, attachment needs and negative cycles

What Makes a Relationship Thrive (and What Makes It Fail)

Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 1/7/26 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 1/7/26

The Core Difference Between Anxious and Avoidant Attachment

Anxious and avoidant attachment styles may appear completely different, but they share the same core problem: insecurity and avoidance of painful feelings. Understanding this difference is key to healing and building secure attachment.

Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 5/21/25 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 5/21/25

Interrupting Your Negative Cycle: Chapter 5 (Part 1) of the Secure Love Book Club

In Part 1 of Chapter 5, we explore what it takes to interrupt your negative cycle in the moment. Julie shares how to slow down, name the pattern, and choose connection over protection—even when it’s hard.

Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 4/22/25 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 4/22/25

Your Partner Isn’t the Enemy—Your Negative Cycle Is

In emotionally stuck relationships, your partner isn’t the enemy. The negative cycle is. Learn how to identify the cycle, understand each other’s roles, and begin the process of healing.

Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 2/18/25 Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC 2/18/25

Why Do Those with Anxious Attachment Do That?

Anxious attachment behaviors often stem from deep fears of abandonment. Learn why these behaviors feel safe and how to shift toward healthier relationship patterns.