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Looking to strengthen your relationship? Our blog offers expert relationship tips rooted in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Learn how to identify your attachment style, communicate more effectively, and foster emotional safety with your partner. From overcoming conflict to building deeper trust, our practical advice and tools, created by couples therapist Julie Menanno, are designed to help you move toward a secure and fulfilling connection. Dive in and start transforming your relationships today!
Understand how attachment styles, boundaries, and emotional security shape your relationships. Learn how to distinguish between anxious fears and intuition, repair negative cycles, and move forward with clarity.
Discover how a relationship therapist navigates her own relationships with authenticity, humor, and a commitment to personal growth.
We often think of love as holding on, but sometimes the most loving thing we can do is step back—not with anger or punishment, but with compassion, clarity, and boundaries.
We talked about how to recognize when detachment may be needed, especially when your partner isn’t able to emotionally show up in the way you need. I explained the difference between healthy detachment and preoccupation, and why detachment isn’t about shutting down or giving up—it’s about protecting your peace of mind, giving up the illusion of control, and staying rooted in your own security.
We also looked at the surprising gifts of detachment: how it can help you focus on self-care, open space for more honest connection, and even deepen your capacity to love. If you’ve ever felt caught between holding on and letting go, this session will guide you toward a more grounded, compassionate path forward.
If you missed it live, I encourage you to watch the replay.
We’ve all had those moments where a simple disagreement spirals into the same painful fight you’ve had a hundred times before. In this session, I’ll walk you through how to escape those negative cycles—what to do before the conversation, how to stay connected during a hard moment, and the steps to take after when repair is needed.
In this session, Julie dives into what it really means to create and maintain healthy boundaries in your relationship. She explains how boundaries are not about building walls, but about protecting your well-being while staying connected to your partner. You’ll hear practical examples of where couples often blur the line between closeness and overreach, and how to communicate limits in a way that strengthens, rather than weakens, the bond. Julie also answers member questions on how to set boundaries when your partner struggles with them, how to know when you’re overstepping theirs, and how boundaries connect to secure attachment.
In this week’s group, Julie hosted an open Q&A, giving members the chance to bring forward the struggles most alive in their relationships right now. The questions ranged widely, but all carried a common thread: how attachment dynamics show up in everyday moments of disconnection.
Julie answered questions about avoidant partners and intimacy, the pull to catastrophize when disconnection happens, and how to approach recurring bedroom struggles without falling into blame or shutdown. She also addressed how partners can recognize when fears from the past are fueling present-day conflicts, and what to do when one person is reaching for closeness but the other feels overwhelmed.
If you’ve ever felt unsure how to navigate your partner’s distance, struggled to bring up sensitive topics without escalating conflict, or wondered why the same fears keep surfacing in your negative cycles, this session will give you fresh perspective and practical tools.