In attachment work, your moves are the defensive, protective behaviors you fall into during the negative cycle, protesting, withdrawing, criticizing, deflecting, all designed to prevent the pain of disconnection, shame, or loneliness. In this Secure Love Club session, Julie Menanno invites you to see the value in your own moves and your partner's, because each one made sense once and your nervous system still trusts it. She explains why we default to these reactions even when they clearly do not work: our bodies trust the familiar unhealthy option over the unproven healthy one. You will learn to view your reactions and your partner's with curiosity and compassion rather than blame, which is exactly what makes real change possible. Illuminating for any couple ready to stop attacking each other's coping and start understanding it. The full teaching is inside for members.