Julie introduced the concept of "reaching" in relationships, where one partner seeks emotional or physical connection or wants to address a concern. She emphasized the importance of acknowledging these reaches and responding thoughtfully to maintain a healthy connection. Connecting responses include recognizing and reciprocating gestures, participating in requested activities or discussions, and setting boundaries kindly when needed. In contrast, disconnecting responses, such as ignoring, rejecting, or deferring conversations indefinitely, can harm the relationship. She discussed common blocks to connection, such as leading with accusations, making vague requests, and interpreting concerns as criticisms.

Resources:

• No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model

• Complex Ptsd: From Surviving to Thriving

• Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

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