Shame sits underneath so much relationship pain, quietly driving defensiveness, withdrawal, harsh self-judgment, and lashing out. In this Secure Love Club session, Julie Menanno takes on understanding and healing shame: what it actually is, how it forms in early experience, and how it fuels the negative cycle between partners without either person naming it. She helps you recognize shame in your own reactions, understand why it makes you so defensive or so avoidant, and begin to soften it with compassion instead of letting it run the show. Drawing on the same attachment framework as her book Secure Love, Julie points toward a path of less shame and more genuine self-acceptance. Deeply relevant for anyone whose inner critic gets in the way of feeling close, safe, and open with their partner. The full teaching is inside for members.