You and your partner will never agree on everything, so what actually keeps a relationship close? In this Secure Love Club session, Julie Menanno teaches the difference between emotional safety and agreement, and why safety, not sameness, is what lets couples stay connected across their differences. She illustrates it with the famously close relationship between two people who disagreed on almost everything, proof that you can hold profoundly different views and still feel deeply safe with each other. The session includes an exercise you can do as a couple or on your own to gain insight into exactly where safety breaks down for you. You will learn why chasing agreement often increases conflict, and how to build the safety that makes differences workable. Clarifying and practical for anyone who believes their differences are the problem, when it is really how they handle them. The full teaching and exercise are inside for members.