It is easy to feel powerless and resentful when your partner will not engage, but you almost always have more influence than you think. In this Secure Love Club session, Julie Menanno returns to a favorite, empowering topic: how to work on your relationship even when your partner is not cooperating. You cannot force anyone to change, she explains, but you can shift the emotional environment toward safety and attachment-friendliness, the very conditions most likely to help a partner recognize their own need to grow and begin to move. Julie is honest that there are no guarantees, and that no one should stay emotionally invested indefinitely without any change. You will learn where your real leverage lies and how to use it without over-functioning. Encouraging and grounded for anyone who feels stuck waiting on a reluctant partner. The full teaching is inside for members.